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  • Really need advice!!

    Been here a while, and I have found so much great information. Unfortunately, things have taken a turn, and I have just received some not so great news, and I'm hoping for some guidance.

    Here is my situation. I have been divorced for 14 years, and my son is 17 years old. When he was 11 he came and lived with me and my wife and daughter, and my ex and I had an agreement that she would not pay any support. I was happy enough just to have him full time. He lived with us for 5 years, and then we decided together that he could go and live with his mom again, and agreed that I would pay no support, just help out here and there.

    That started out great until she lost her job, and exhausted EI, and went on social assistance. Now I'm being told that I have to pay table rates and have no choice retro to the first day she started on Assistance??

    Is this true? Is there anything I can do to stop it?

    Hopefully someone out there has a similar situation, and can shed some light.

  • #2
    Now I'm being told that I have to pay table rates and have no choice retro
    If she is receiving social assistance then the government may force the child support issue as that would reduce the welfare she is receiving.

    Was she on social assistance before your son moved in with her?

    Who has given you the information so far?

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    • #3
      Thanks for the reply. No she was working when he moved there, and then lost her job, went on EI, and then welfare.

      My ex has been giving me all of the information, but has shown me a business card from the City of Ottawa Community and Social Services Dept.

      They are asking for my SIN, and other info now including tax info from last year.

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      • #4
        Sounds to me like you'll be paying CS until your son is 18 or finishes school or you could have him move back with you .

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        • #5
          Well, as OrleansLawyer said social services will go after you for full table support.
          They also will send you separation agreement which will cover ONLY CS.

          Nothing she can do actually. Well she can give you money back when she get it but from what I remember how it work that they will calculate how much money a month she entitled to and than deduct support and give her cheque for rest. So it maybe a case that she even will not be able to give you back monies (or part of it) because nothing will left to pay bills and rent.

          I think the most efficient way of doing it (money wise) is if kid move back to you and she apply without him.

          But you need to double check that one

          WD

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          • #6
            While on Social Assistance your ex (and your son, if he's in her custody now) is being supported by the tax payer. Since you have an obligation to support your son Social Assistance will force your ex to pursue you for child support, if she does not they will cut her asssistance. Once you are paying child support, whether willingly or thru garnishment, it will be taken out of your ex's social assistance payment...dollar for dollar, I believe but am not sure. They will pursue back support to the day your ex went on social assistance and they will be successful.

            To avoid paying the support your only option is to have your son move in with you although you would still be on the hook for the back support. I doubt your ex would be willing to let him move since that would greatly reduce her social assistance payments and any child tax benefits and other tax credits she receives.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Mark1968 View Post
              While on Social Assistance your ex (and your son, if he's in her custody now) is being supported by the tax payer. Since you have an obligation to support your son Social Assistance will force your ex to pursue you for child support, if she does not they will cut her asssistance. Once you are paying child support, whether willingly or thru garnishment, it will be taken out of your ex's social assistance payment...dollar for dollar, I believe but am not sure. They will pursue back support to the day your ex went on social assistance and they will be successful.

              To avoid paying the support your only option is to have your son move in with you although you would still be on the hook for the back support. I doubt your ex would be willing to let him move since that would greatly reduce her social assistance payments and any child tax benefits and other tax credits she receives.
              I had a friend that was on social assistance and this is exactly how it went down. Social assistance does not play games either, they just take. Your best bet is to have your son live with you, if you can.

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              • #8
                Thanks everyone,

                I am going to co-operate and continue to help out my son as much as I can. I just wish it was up to his parents how help is given as I can't pay the support at table values and help her at the same time, but I understand how the system works.

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