I am here on behalf of my fiancé. My fiancé has 2 ex’s and it just seems the nightmare is never going to end, and I’m really hoping I can get some advice. The ex’s and kids all live in Ontario and we now live in BC, so it makes matters more difficult to try and get anything done because we aren’t there to just take them back to court, and he can’t afford a lawyer anymore.
Ex # 1 – He has 4 children with this person and they split in 2000. He had a court order for visitation but her husband (the neighbour she was cheating on my fiancé with) became violent every time he would go to pick up the kids and became harassing, my fiancés mother ended up with a concussion from the ex (still have all harassing letters and doctors reports). My fiancé went back to court to request police assistance when picking up the kids, they did this twice and said “nothing is happening so this is a waste of our time” and stopped helping, well of course nothing is happening with police there! The next time he went to get the kids there was violence again and my fiancé stopped going to get the kids because they were all so young and he didn’t want them to see what was going on. So 10 years went by and he wasn’t able to see his kids because of the husband. During those years they enrolled each kid in hockey and my fiancé was not able to go to games or have any involvement, but silly him, he didn’t take it back to court, he gave up because he felt the court was not on his side. In the time I have been with him, I have personally witnessed his ex allowing him to see the kids, to try and re-establish a relationship, which was all hidden from her husband, and all three times this attempt at a relationship ended because of her and her crap. Now it’s at the point that all the kids have blocked him from Facebook and want nothing to do with him and I can see how much it hurts him.
So we have recently found out (and have a bit of proof to) that 2 of the 4 kids are not living at home and haven’t been for over 2 years but she is still collecting support for them. One is 20 and the other is 17, we were under the impression that the 20 year old was in college, and I even asked the ex a few weeks ago how he is doing in school and she said “he’s doing good”, then we found out he dropped out last year and has been hiding it from us. The last order in court said she would meet half way for access (when we still lived in Ontario) and access would be as frequent as possible, well it never happened once. Then we also found out her house was foreclosed on and she has moved, we have no idea where the other 2 kids are even living. So now we are going to put the paperwork in to the ISO unit to have the 2 kids taken off the support chain and state that 2 years has been an over payment, but my biggest concern is she will go after him for hockey costs because the 2 kids are still in hockey. He has never been told by court to pay for hockey, I am not sure if she has ever tried to get hockey costs from him (I'm waiting for the orders and endorsements from Ontario), but he has never been able to be apart of the kids lives because of her, he has never been able to be a part of their games or any decisions, which I have her admitting to this in an MSN message so what would her chances be of getting awarded hockey costs at this point? She will try I’m sure, because she will be losing money for the 2 older boys.
Ex # 2 – One child and they split over 3 years ago. We are said and done with this, it has gone through trial, the only question I have were this is concerned is she has a cost award against her for 3500.00 and the judge stated in his decision that this is to be allocated towards any arrears and any difference is to be issued as a judgement. Well my fiancé doesn’t have any arrears and we don’t know what to do with this judgement now. FRO has a copy of the award and his file is in the process of being transferred to the Vancouver ISO Unit, but what does he do with this award letter to enforce a judgement? We have no idea how to go about this.
Thanks and sorry for the long winded message.
Ex # 1 – He has 4 children with this person and they split in 2000. He had a court order for visitation but her husband (the neighbour she was cheating on my fiancé with) became violent every time he would go to pick up the kids and became harassing, my fiancés mother ended up with a concussion from the ex (still have all harassing letters and doctors reports). My fiancé went back to court to request police assistance when picking up the kids, they did this twice and said “nothing is happening so this is a waste of our time” and stopped helping, well of course nothing is happening with police there! The next time he went to get the kids there was violence again and my fiancé stopped going to get the kids because they were all so young and he didn’t want them to see what was going on. So 10 years went by and he wasn’t able to see his kids because of the husband. During those years they enrolled each kid in hockey and my fiancé was not able to go to games or have any involvement, but silly him, he didn’t take it back to court, he gave up because he felt the court was not on his side. In the time I have been with him, I have personally witnessed his ex allowing him to see the kids, to try and re-establish a relationship, which was all hidden from her husband, and all three times this attempt at a relationship ended because of her and her crap. Now it’s at the point that all the kids have blocked him from Facebook and want nothing to do with him and I can see how much it hurts him.
So we have recently found out (and have a bit of proof to) that 2 of the 4 kids are not living at home and haven’t been for over 2 years but she is still collecting support for them. One is 20 and the other is 17, we were under the impression that the 20 year old was in college, and I even asked the ex a few weeks ago how he is doing in school and she said “he’s doing good”, then we found out he dropped out last year and has been hiding it from us. The last order in court said she would meet half way for access (when we still lived in Ontario) and access would be as frequent as possible, well it never happened once. Then we also found out her house was foreclosed on and she has moved, we have no idea where the other 2 kids are even living. So now we are going to put the paperwork in to the ISO unit to have the 2 kids taken off the support chain and state that 2 years has been an over payment, but my biggest concern is she will go after him for hockey costs because the 2 kids are still in hockey. He has never been told by court to pay for hockey, I am not sure if she has ever tried to get hockey costs from him (I'm waiting for the orders and endorsements from Ontario), but he has never been able to be apart of the kids lives because of her, he has never been able to be a part of their games or any decisions, which I have her admitting to this in an MSN message so what would her chances be of getting awarded hockey costs at this point? She will try I’m sure, because she will be losing money for the 2 older boys.
Ex # 2 – One child and they split over 3 years ago. We are said and done with this, it has gone through trial, the only question I have were this is concerned is she has a cost award against her for 3500.00 and the judge stated in his decision that this is to be allocated towards any arrears and any difference is to be issued as a judgement. Well my fiancé doesn’t have any arrears and we don’t know what to do with this judgement now. FRO has a copy of the award and his file is in the process of being transferred to the Vancouver ISO Unit, but what does he do with this award letter to enforce a judgement? We have no idea how to go about this.
Thanks and sorry for the long winded message.
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