Is there something wrong with this picture or am I just overreacting? How does one get past the games, the abuse, the use of the children and move onto engaging in a co-parenting situation that is healthy? Is that even possible?
6 months seperated, mediation just occured and I am now waiting for him to sign the seperation agreement and move on with our lives. We have been sharing the house 50/50 for the kids sakes but I have been paying the lion's share of the household and kids bills so that my credit rating stays good and the kids do not suffer.
Many requests have been made for him to pitch in more financially, the last of which was responded to last week stating that he will only start to pay his own cell phone bill and gas money when the seperation agreement is signed and finances are formally seperated! I have been drowning financially but doing my best to get through.
Well, this past weekend, Thanksgiving. First holiday in 11 years that I have not spent with my children. Also my oldest's birthday. A double whammy emotionally however, something I need to get through to be able to live with the new reality.
I gave her a birthday present before the switch, it was small (under $20) however what I could afford on this pay and she was happy!
Fast forward 24 hours....gave her a happy birthday phone call. She was really excited. Dad bought her a laptop and "Dad was right, his present kicked your present's butt"
A laptop? When he claims he will not and can not pay for his own personal expenses like gas, cell phone and car insurance?
It is not only the extravagence of the present that kills me....it is her comment to me. I cried for 2 hours after getting off the phone.
Is this a case of him bullying, using the kids and trying to get to me? Or am I just overreacting and too sensitive?
6 months seperated, mediation just occured and I am now waiting for him to sign the seperation agreement and move on with our lives. We have been sharing the house 50/50 for the kids sakes but I have been paying the lion's share of the household and kids bills so that my credit rating stays good and the kids do not suffer.
Many requests have been made for him to pitch in more financially, the last of which was responded to last week stating that he will only start to pay his own cell phone bill and gas money when the seperation agreement is signed and finances are formally seperated! I have been drowning financially but doing my best to get through.
Well, this past weekend, Thanksgiving. First holiday in 11 years that I have not spent with my children. Also my oldest's birthday. A double whammy emotionally however, something I need to get through to be able to live with the new reality.
I gave her a birthday present before the switch, it was small (under $20) however what I could afford on this pay and she was happy!
Fast forward 24 hours....gave her a happy birthday phone call. She was really excited. Dad bought her a laptop and "Dad was right, his present kicked your present's butt"
A laptop? When he claims he will not and can not pay for his own personal expenses like gas, cell phone and car insurance?
It is not only the extravagence of the present that kills me....it is her comment to me. I cried for 2 hours after getting off the phone.
Is this a case of him bullying, using the kids and trying to get to me? Or am I just overreacting and too sensitive?
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