Oh so yah he is ticked because i won't let him take the kids to BC even though he made the agreement we just signed and he is causing alot of stress for the me to let him move. i would never agree he can go but the kids stay with me. I just don't know how to resolve this situation if at all possible. e isn't a bad father for the most part except that he is very controlling toward me etc.. i imagine our kids will live with me when they are old enough to decide where they want to live. I have a great situation I met a guy a year ago and he is wonderful has 2 kids around the same age he has a good job and is an amazing person and farther. The kids are like brother and sister. So we have a great set up for them.

I have been seperated for 3 years. My ex has been bitter and angry for all 3 and it isn't getting any better. We met in BC and he wants to move back there but we moved to Ont. 9 months before being seperated and I started court proceddings. he has been emotionally and mentally abusive our whole relationship and continues to still be. We have 3 children aged 8,6 and 4. We were never married and lived common-law. I finally left after being worn down by our unhappy relationship. I was a stay at home so when I left I had no money, no furniture nothing. He did eventually give me some of my belongings back but I will never get to see some of them again like pics of kids when they were babies and other keepsakes. he left me w an $8000.00 credit card bill that he had racked up in my name. And he was looking for intimate encounters on dating sites. He treated me like a piece of s#$t and I couldn't take it anymore. Over the last 3 years we were going throught the court sys and lawyers I had leagal aid and it was traumatizing to me. I was in college the last 2 years trying to get educated so I can get a good job and just recently graduated. I am trying to build a great life for my kids. In April of this past year my ex bullied me intto giving him sol custody of the kids. I couldn't take his abuse any longer and thought this would make him less angry and more relaxed but it actually is worse. We have a good agreement we alternate weekends with the kids and I have them one night a week. My ex works from home and has a decent income so it made sense as i was never going to see a penny out of him. he doesn't pay taxes and would never admit to his actual income. I am going to be working m to f so i thought it best the kids be with their dad as he works from home. Anyway the problem isn't so much the agreement as it divides our time well it is that he is not following the agreement. He took an extended holiday with the kids summer without telling me in advance and has not helped make up the time as the agreement states. I am frustrated my children miss me and he is verbally abusive to me in front of them. i want to protect my children and for them to have a great childhood but their dad;s anger and bitterness is creating them stress and I cannot stand by and watch. i am their mother and I need to protect them. What should I do?