Hello everyone. Last time I visited here was 1 year ago and joined about 1 year before that.
Now I have a question!. I have 2 children. 1-15 and 1-21. I am divorced now. My 21 year old lives with his Dad full time and we see each other when time permits. My 15 year old (F), now lives with her Dad as well. Reason?. $$ Dad can buy her everything she wants, just like he did with our son. We have joint custody of both kids, although obviously my son is an adult now, so that is a null and void point. Our daughter is also joint custody, with me being primary parent with control of education and health and welfare. We had a bi weekly arrangement where my daughter would be with me one week, and her dad the following week. My ex was primary for our son. Son is now able to do those things on his own, although he lives under his Dads roof still, not working full time, less than 3 days a week, or going to school. Dad has bought him two pick up trucks, pays for insurance, vehicles under his (Dad)'s name, buys him Motorcross bike(s) yearly, sends him on trips, basically everything.
Our daughter is now falling into the same trap. She has for approx. one year, been living at her Dads, not doing the bi weekly visit, and being very hesitant to contact me. He is still paying the child support. He is going against the court order on the visitation. He is going against the court order for over 7 years to provide a yearly copy of his income tax. He was constantly harassing me via emails and phone calls/messages when my daughter was doing the bi-weekly visits. He would do things to bribe her. Two of my relationships with other men fell apart do to the constant harassment from him. Now that she is living there, the harassment has basically stopped. Initially, before we separated, he was having an affair, and was arrested and spent a night in jail for assaulting me. When it went to court he got away with it. He said I would pay for it. He also said that he would get the kids, one day, one way or another.
Now for the question. Should I just let my daughter decide on her own what to do? Should I take it back to court?. We have a court appointed mediator which I did contact approx. 3 years ago for one problem. As far as I know, he has never contacted her. Should I take that route first and see what she suggests?
I appreciate comments and suggestions, as I am at a stalemate as to what to do. I am located in the Clarington Region. Thank you for your help.