For the women

[mummer1962]

BTW he contributed 4800 and he stated in court that you all are a bunch of asses and thats where i got my advice...

[Gary M]

Originally Posted by mummer1962

and he stated in court that you all are a bunch of asses and thats where i got my advice...

Man, that's harsh.

I dunno about the rest of y'all, but I am feeling rather smacked-down by that

Dejected

Rejected

Chagrined

Woebegon, even...

Cheers!

Gary

[Gary M]

Originally Posted by canadamama

Hey Mess - end of the day, you had a mom who found kiddy porn on her kids' dad's computer and was subsequently concerned about their safety with him - even in such an extreme situation, you STILL side with the dad - you can't just SAY you aren't biased, when your posts so clearly show you are.

Mess didn't side with anyone, and you picked the wrong person to accuse of being biased. You might just as well assert that Ghandi was a pugnacious thug.

I, too, now think that you made the whole thing up: Your story is inconsistent, which is usually the 1st indication of fabrication. You know, you wouldn't be the 1st douchebag* to concoct a pedo story in order to attempt to gain sole custody. It ain't original and it hardly, if ever, works.

Good luck with that.

Cheers!

Gary

*douchebags do not have a gender

[atlanticcanadian]

Wow! Is all I have to say about this thread. I would think a social worker would know to behave better than this at that. No offense Mummer. This would be more appropriate for Facebook. Didn't people get divorced to stop fighting. Children are more important than our petty differences. If she is 19, be thankful that he will pay any support for her to continue her education and at 19, maybe it would be more appropriate to discuss directly with her father for support. That is what my son does, period.

[karmaseeker]

Is this the real housewives of Ottawa divorce? Such Drama!

Who needs to watch tv?

Pass the popcorn.

FYI: As a women I have received loads of support and very useful help for my struggles on this site. Thank you all for your comments. The comments that hit a note with me I take with me and what doesn't resonate with me I leave behind. I don't expect everyone to agree with me and I don't agree with everyone else. It is what it is.... a resource for people to get information from other people that have walked the hard path before us. I am grateful for this site, the people that come back and offer assistance even after their case has been resolved. That is very giving and generous.

So here's to the good advise, the bad comments we leave behind, and the momentary dramatic distraction.

[neverdivorced]

Originally Posted by atlanticcanadian

Didn't people get divorced to stop fighting. Children are more important than our petty differences. If she is 19, be thankful that he will pay any support for her to continue her education and at 19, maybe it would be more appropriate to discuss directly with her father for support. That is what my son does, period.

well, you have to be married to be divorced - and one has to wonder why the money is still going to the mother. Like so many people, it seems like it is more about the money than it is about the love and relationship between the parent and child - Big people should pay their own way - period. And she is a big person. But, there is a learning here - let's not pay anything yourself - let's make sure we stick it to daddy - let's make sure we have a man pay for what we want - and make us dependent on someone else.

I think this site has a lot to offer. There is a lot of good information here - and I guess even those who are liars and are conniving - there 's lots to learn from them too . It is troubling to think that people are on here speaking about others in a disrespectful way - possibly lying about them - it is like the people who spread rumors at the coffee pot at work -- just one person's opinion - even when they say they have "proof" - who on here really knows? We all know the answer to that!

[canadamama]

Originally Posted by neverdivorced

well, you have to be married to be divorced - and one has to wonder why the money is still going to the mother. Like so many people, it seems like it is more about the money than it is about the love and relationship between the parent and child - Big people should pay their own way - period. And she is a big person. But, there is a learning here - let's not pay anything yourself - let's make sure we stick it to daddy - let's make sure we have a man pay for what we want - and make us dependent on someone else.

Thank you for posting a message which illustrates my point so perfectly.

[atlanticcanadian]

Originally Posted by canadamama

Thank you for posting a message which illustrates my point so perfectly.

I don't know about anyone else but I think at the end of the day there must be fairness to everyone regardless of gender or age.

[canadamama]

Originally Posted by atlanticcanadian

I don't know about anyone else but I think at the end of the day there must be fairness to everyone regardless of gender or age.

Well said, atlanticcanadian - I agree 100%. Thank you.