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Old 09-07-2017, 09:06 PM
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Actually, females are my entire life. Some posters here on the forums know me and can vouch for that. So keep your bias talk to yourself.

Each family is unique .. 50/50 isnt for everybody .. but "in general", children fare much better when 2 loving parents are equally involved. But I suppose we dont require your approval .. we have a wide array of resources and expereinces that illustrate this for us.

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I have yet to see a study that convinces me that the immediate presumption of equal 50-50 shared parenting at DOS is actually in the best interest of the child (and no amount of flaming has managed to convince me otherwise), but I continue to enjoy reading those posted.
I'm not surprised. But then again, I can see why this is your stance. Your posts over the years come off very bitter against male ex's and fathers in general, let alone your discontent with equal relationships.

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Each family is unique, and applying the “one shoe fits all” strategy post-separation is not, imo, in the ‘best interest of the child”.
Luckily we're using the terms "in general" and "if circumstances permit", etc.

Anytime 50/50 is mentioned I love some posters immediate response "Its not one size fits all". Who ever said it was? Why is that always your go to? Are you running out of replies and/or ideas to back your stance?
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Let me know when you are done editing, so I have a final version to review and answer.
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Yep .. reaching for the bottom of the barrel I see. So lets go Mc notsodreamy
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Point out your arguments "against" equal relationships and how the average child, in general, when circumstances permit .. does not fare better when 2 parents are involved equally and work as effective business partners for their kids.

You're not convinced by studies? .. okay
You're not convinced by caselaw? .. okay
You're not convinced by other gov't literature or the max. contact principle? Okay.

It seems that you're simply in denial, possibly scarred by your own experiences, Im not sure. As a long time poster and mod it would be nice to see you promote equal relationships on this site once in a while, in my opinion.
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By the way .. I meant that your posts were "not so dreamy"...not you as a person. I was going to edit it but I know that irritates you.
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Speaking as one undergoing this exact situation right now... An unequal parenting regime does not protect the child from abuse/neglect either, it simply reduces the exposure, a bit. McDreamys argument in favor of not having presumed 50/50, doesn't work in protecting children. Unless she is instead in favor of sole custody, no visitation being the norm at the start, until the other parent can be fully vetted?
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Actually, females are my entire life. Some posters here on the forums know me and can vouch for that. So keep your bias talk to yourself.

Each family is unique .. 50/50 isnt for everybody .. but "in general", children fare much better when 2 loving parents are equally involved. But I suppose we dont require your approval .. we have a wide array of resources and expereinces that illustrate this for us.


Well actually, the articles posted at the beginning of this thread talk about how kids are better off in joint custody vs sole custody. They mention that kids fare better in life if there is at least involvement by both parents. Shared custody is even referred to as being as low as 35%. Hmmmm, that's not equal is it? Yet studies are saying that kids turn out just fine when there is involvement by both parents, but not necessarily equal involvement.



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In fact, the title of this thread is "New research supports shared custody...". We aren't even talking about equal parenting necessarily and none of these articles insist it needs to be equal.


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Your really reaching with that one. The usual presumption when someone is speaking of sharing, is splitting equally. Tell two kids to share a cookie, and then split it between them 70/30 and see how that goes over.
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