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Old 01-27-2006, 01:07 PM
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I know where your coming from.

In the child support guidelines there is a undue hardship test at the end. Schedule II to compare standards of living from each household.

What I find difficult and hard to swallow is that the cost of raising and providing for a child is similar. A pair of shoes costs relatively the same regardless if your parents make 30K a year or 100 K. But yet support tables factor this disparity in. Does this mean that married couples with intact relationships should be spending this amount on each of their children, if not would they be considered bad parents?

You are right if a significant portion of your income is allocated for support purposes, and very little is left to accommodate your child, it does make you wonder how you can have a decent relationship with your child/children.
The child support guidelines are a joke. Actually, the Divorce Laws are a joke. And Dads are the punchline.

I could not, in my entire life, think of any month where I could even BEGIN to spend the amount of money on my children that my ex receives in support. And this is very common. It is even worse when you have the kids 50-50 and are ordered to pay full support. Nice, eh.

Child support is lifestyle support. Well, her lifestyle. Not yours (and actually not the children's since CS is not accountable).

Unfortunately you must petition the court and file a motion to get your support re-evaluated. But you most likely will lose. Judges do not go below the table amount. But you acn try.

That is something that is always missed in all the newspaper horror stories of the man not disclosing income increases so the ex could get more support. People have no idea how hard it is (next to impossible) and how costly it is to get support reduced or lowered or stopped during employment variations or trying to maintain basic life. Yup, that seems to be always missed in these discussions. A common question asked: "You mean, when your income goes down... you support does not go down?" Only through a court motion... Nice, eh.
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Old 01-27-2006, 02:59 PM
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Decent Dad,

In response to your most recent post:

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you have the kids 50-50 and are ordered to pay full support
If a parent has access to the child[ren] more than 40% of the time, it is likely that child support will be readjusted or made payable by setting off each party's child support obligation against each other. So, although it is true that a parent who has the children 50% of the time would technically be paying full child support, please keep in that the other parent would be paying full child support as well.

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That is something that is always missed in all the newspaper horror stories of the man not disclosing income increases so the ex could get more support.
Please note that the onus is on the child support recipient to request financial disclosure from the payor (normally the possibility of review is once per year) for the purposes of increasing child support. When disclosure is requested, however, full and frank disclosure must be provided.

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Unfortunately you must petition the court and file a motion to get your support re-evaluated
Just to make things clear to other members - child support must only be adjusted by motion if it has been set out by court order. With a separation agreement, the parties could sign an amending agreement stating the new child support amount or mediate the issue if they are not able to agree on the issue.

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If a parent has access to the child[ren] more than 40% of the time, it is likely that child support will be readjusted or made payable by setting off each party's child support obligation against each other. So, although it is true that a parent who has the children 50% of the time would technically be paying full child support, please keep in that the other parent would be paying full child support as well.
I meant full table amount. And you are correct in the use of the word 'likely'. As in 'not always' and the trend is not to adjust at all.

BTW, I always find that statement very funny "And the other parent is paying full support as well" If that was the case, my children would be receving over 2500 per month based on both parents income and payments. Which is completely absurd. It is the paying parent's income that is paying the way here (for the children and the other parent).

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Please note that the onus is on the child support recipient to request financial disclosure from the payor (normally the possibility of review is once per year) for the purposes of increasing child support. When disclosure is requested, however, full and frank disclosure must be provided.
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Again, no rules for income going down. Sure you can lower your payment. And if the ex does not like that, off to the FRO and courts everyone goes. Provide dislocure when your income goes up - pay more. Provide discloure when your income goes down - tough luck.

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Just to make things clear to other members - child support must only be adjusted by motion if it has been set out by court order. With a separation agreement, the parties could sign an amending agreement stating the new child support amount or mediate the issue if they are not able to agree on the issue.
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I guess I am trying to explain what really happens out there. Sure, in the perfect world, your income goes up, your support goes up. Your income goes down, your support goes down. Your income is suspended - your support is suspended. With no court intervention. But that is NOT the case. You are correct - you have to have a motion (costing a few grand) to have it adjusted. And, it most likely will not be. Sorry, I am just trying to manage expectations. I am not saying don't go for it. It appears there is one set of rules for one thing (Mom) and another set of rules for another thing (Dad).
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Decent Dad,

I understand that your post was meant to be informative, but the outcome of your case may not necessarily be the outcome of everyone else's case. I used the word "likely" simply because there can be no definte or guaranteed result. Custody and child support is determined by the issues and circumstances of each case and how information is presented to the court.

I think it's very unfair to say that there are different rules for mothers and fathers. There are many cases where the father is the primary caregiver and the mother the support payor. In that kind of situation, the court would not give the payor special treatment simply because she is a woman. There is no male and female when it comes to child support. There is, however, a payor and a recipient.

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I understand that your post was meant to be informative, but the outcome of your case may not necessarily be the outcome of everyone else's case. I used the word "likely" simply because there can be no definte or guaranteed result. Custody and child support is determined by the issues and circumstances of each case and how information is presented to the court.
I was going on the outcome of the 100's of cases I have read. Sure, I am not in court every day (well, it feels like every day), so I cannot tell what happens in every single case, but I have researched enough to state what really happens.

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I think it's very unfair to say that there are different rules for mothers and fathers. There are many cases where the father is the primary caregiver and the mother the support payor. In that kind of situation, the court would not give the payor special treatment simply because she is a woman. There is no male and female when it comes to child support. There is, however, a payor and a recipient.
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There may be one set of rules, and in the rare situation like child support, the mother is treated the same as the father. For the most part, the rules are certainly implemented quite differently. You are not equals going in. And that is the first mistake a father can make.

BTW, I have never said, that mothers never pay support, or for that matter, have never lost custody or access.

I guess we need a spreadsheet with 4 columns:

Column #1: Question
Column #2: What the law says
Column #3: What you think should happen
Column #4: What really will happen (in 80% of cases)

So, taking our post above:

Question:
What happens when a court ordered child support award exceeds my ability to live.
What the law says:
You can claim undue hardship (as posted above) using formula, etc., to see if you qualify. Then, file a material change in circumstance, motion the court, prepare the paperwork (affidavits), etc
What you think should happen:
With his properly researched and prepared case, he thinks his support would go down.
What really will happen (80% of the time):
Nothing.
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Old 01-27-2006, 05:06 PM
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Decent Dad,

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just hope that other parents involved in support and custody situations remember that every case is different, and that another individual's interpretation of law is just that.

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You've stated your point in a very concise and classy style; you were so tactful--thumbs up to you.
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Regarding your statement that if parent's incomes were combined, your children would receive OVER $2500.00; you obviously pay at least $1250.00month. Why couldn't I have have married and divorced YOU? That's a nice chunk o' change!!
I'm only joking; trying to put a smile on your face.After reading your posts, sounds like you need a chuckle.
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I very much appreciate your experience and opinion. It appears you have already seen what I am currently looking at too !
I have also studied , now near a thousand different files and I agree with what you are saying. It is a breath of fresh air to hear opinions without the sugar-coating, we all know the "lets hope" context of law as we read about it, but the "lets's get real" school is much more valuable. Diplomacy has it's place though and Lindsay is within her circle of responsibility to state what she wrote for sure.

"Education is what you get when you read the instructions"
" Experience is what you get when you don't"

I am guilty of being ignorant of how the Family Law interpretations got set adrift the last few decades--- I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then.
Who really knows these potental ramifications for tragedy on the day two people decide to share the obligations of family life, it is a shock to learn the laws after the family breaks down.The system is broken and very sick in my humble opinion, Win or lose in a Divorce breakdown, is a concept that has no place in civil societies witnessing the pain and suffering of the families ,there is little need for lawyers throwing gas on the fire, it is already a five alarm blaze before they even hear about it.The courts just don't seem to be the right institution anymore to deal with this....but if not a judge....then who ??
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You've stated your point in a very concise and classy style; you were so tactful--thumbs up to you.
I second that motion!!! No wonder they call her "Super Moderator".
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