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[rwm1273]

I am angry that after 7 years of divorce and over $200K in legal fees, I feel like my kids are suffering for the 10 months of marriage.

It makes no difference how accommodating I have been, my ex always comes tries to turn it around on me. My first year I had the kids, I offered her the kids for both of their birhtdays, and let them spend xmas day with her. She was not entitled to see them for any of these days, but I did it because it was the right thing to do. She wanted the kids for xmas eve and xmas day, but I told her it was my first time to see the kids for christmas in 5 years, and wanted to put milk and cookies out for santa and watch them open their gifts.

In court she complained saying that I was alienating them from her, and claimed that "I knew that xmas was important to her and the kids and I didn't even do anything with them."

Had i followed the court order, she would not have had the kids until the 27th of december.

How do you deal with a person like this and not get angry?