New and in SHOCK!!

[Hanging On]

Karen,

Thanks for the advice. I have been relying on family and friends who have been wonderfully supportive but I wonder if they are getting tired of my incessant whining!

[alot to learn]

Eh, when you know what a problem the ex was it is nice to see someone else take the problem. My ex gave his girlfriend the day we were officially divorced. He then told me he wasn't paying half the divorce as originally agreed. It hurt at first but eventually he will probably be paying for his second divorce and that was comforting.

[tugofwar]

OMG this is what I needed to read tonight that's for sure!! Ex just got served court order and from his email seems pretty upset. Just have to keep thinking this is not about him anymore...... it's about the children! Keep yourself busy, do something nice or relaxing. Things do get easier. But it's the initial shock that stings the most! Thanks for all the replies too.... helps get you to think clearly again though I know it's been tough and rough.
Im just glad 2009 is gone and I have a whole life ahead of me with my child... that's all I have to do to help me get thru this. It's all about the children!!!!!

[tugofwar]

Let someone else have him! His true self will once again surface in time. He will do to her what he did to you. It wasn't just you. Some people just have a way of trying to manipulate you to think their way is always right. They have not done any wrong..... Whatever!

[standing on the sidelines]

i know exactly how you feel. My ex and I were not officailly divorced yet when ha had the gall to take his girlfriend to my parents (yes my parents) to tell them that she was pregnant with his child. My mom told me the news and after getting off the phone from her i put my hand through a window.

Here is the thing though, he is no longer with that one, in fact he was already done with her before the birth. The next one wanted to marry him (had her fooled) she got pregnant and once again it was over before the birth. Not sure if he has had kids after that or not and I really do not care. He may have moved on faster then I did, but he is still moving on and I am happily married for almost 12 years now.

The first girlfriend of his was the hardest but I got over it. He will never find happiness because he will not do the work it takes for a successful relationship.

Best of luck to you in this new direction in your life

[independentgal]

The last time the person who posted this topic logged on here was four years ago.

[tugofwar]

Ha Ha! You would think I was blonde or something. Was just seeing if anyone would catch on. Just trying to lighten the mood.