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Old 03-08-2010, 05:17 PM
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Hi there im new here and I am beside myself, PLEASE if there is anyone who can talk with me ....who has been where I am ....I would do almost anything to thank you.
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Old 03-08-2010, 05:30 PM
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You are going to have to be alittle more specific to what is it that's happening ( but if you don't want to go into too much detail) but it's probably easier if you just post some basics here and hopefully someone will be able to help and respond to your questions....

And assure you there are many great people here on this forum with amazing advice and help make things easier.

Just remember you are not alone. We are all going thru this and find strength in each other!
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Old 03-08-2010, 05:58 PM
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Well I will try to explain but this is far different then what I have read, First off I am a Father of 2 kids with this woman but only one is "my seed" but love her as my own and have since she was 6 months. We got together very fast and very quickly bought a house together. After falling in love with her daughter and moving in together we ran into money problems in renovating the house and further hurting the issue was an unknown drinking problem on her end. But that is not my issue, my issue is the kids she left with her daughter after 10 months, leaving me to pay for the home on my own. Now 3 yrs later we have had a child together a perfect little boy he is 1 yr old so you can all do the math she left 3 yrs ago and we have a 1 yr old??? I know I know what was I thinking . So what is the problem well its money. I have none as I am paying for a home we purchesed together , and she knows this and the cost of the home is more then i make so i have a roomate to help cover the cost. Now when she is not drunk and mean , she is fine with me and even calls me a good father , but the moment I try to think on my own she starts with threats and with holding the kids from me. saying things that are just insane. I am fearfull when and if we go to court she is just going to get up there and say half truths and bold face lies. I am at this point contemplating death, as I see no light and everything I read comes with a dollar next to it . When did being a good father have a dollar next to it? It makes me sick.
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:05 PM
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When is the woman going to be held responsible for her actions? When she told me she was with child I suggested we not have it as we are not together and are not in a possition to have another, I would never cange anything now as I love my kids more then life itself , but because im broke Im a deadbeat in her eyes and the worlds , I would Take the kids , in fact would love to have them but from what I can tell from reading posts ...THAT IS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN....and why? I can do anything she can do ? I can get day care I can cook , I change bums I give bathes ????? WTF I am a loving father !!!!
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:11 PM
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now I will say this about her ...other then her drinking problem she is a good mother , BUT her drinking problem had facs at our door 3 yrs ago and played a big role in why she left. I had left for 2-3 hrs to visit a friend and when I came home our 2 yr old daughter was in her crib but the mother was nowhere to be found....after a search of the home and property i had no choice but to call the police as I feared she may have tried to hurt herself and did not think she would ever leave her baby home alone....well after the entire police force was searching for her they found her next door drinking with the neghbor. So the police filed a report with FACS. She has never forgiven me for calling the police , but i truly was in tears thinking she had hurt herself. Now I lied about the truth when we had to meet with FACS and case was closed. I do not want to go to court and bring this up ...BUT I DO WANT MY SON.
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:18 PM
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We both have money in this house I am paying for , she and the kids need nothing they have everything , she already gets $1400 a month from our daughters ex. I have fatherd her daughter since 6 months , I love her as my own , When are the courts going to see a pattern with SOME women , and when Is a man going to have some say in anything ? Now my question is this should I stop paying for the house and let it go to the bank and then pay support? or should I try and get her to pay half the monthly on the home and pay her support? I dont know what to do , Like I said she will never let me move on .....
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:28 PM
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I do not want to get up in court and bad mouth the mother of my children..I see my kids almost every weekend but it always has to be at her house as she feels the home WE bought together is unfit. I just know her and what she is capable of and I am truly worried that when this reaches boiling point then there will be so much damage done that it will be un fixable and I might as well be dead.
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:34 PM
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In the end I continued this messed up relationship so I could see my kids , as every time I try to move on this happens the threats and the with holding the kids, I am not perfect at all , I have made many mistakes in my life , BUT this is a fact ...I LOVE THE KIDS ...It was easier to comply then resist. thats all i can say , and I was right cuz she is as mean as I have ever seen her.
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:42 PM
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You are coming across in a very scary manner. You allude to suicidal thoughts, you are posting seven times in a row, as the thoughts come rambling across your mind it seems.

You should call a crisis hotline.
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Old 03-08-2010, 06:44 PM
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You have no idea what she has put me threw....
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