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[kim143]

Hi there my name is Kim I am a mother of two beautifull girls 4 and 8. I have recently separated from their father, we lived common law for 7 years. Let me clarrify, he left us in November 2005, he then moved in with a 21 year old, who has a 1 year old child from a previous relationship (he's 31) a month later. It broke my heart and felt like 7 years were ripped away from me. My kids have been dealling with it and they have been seeing their father every other weekend, which started in January. This has been sooooo hard on me I am currently going through the court process for cild support and custody, he just started paying in April, cause my lawyer threatened to take emergency action. I am glad I have found this sight and I would love to talk to others who are going through the same thing.

[2hopefull]

Hi I'm somewhat new to this phase of life and I have a 9 year old - it's lousy on the children - no getting around it, especially if one parent is thinking of their own needs before their children - usually why one seperates - this forum is super useful and informative. Just a hint, document everything because the whole family law system is litigation, litigation. But don't despair and get councilling - it's really helped me not to take the full blame of everything and look forward to the future and what I can offer to my child and work on our relationship - the relationship with the other parent is the other parents' responsibility - don't waste your energy.

and welcome

take care

[hubby]

Kim143,

Welcome aboard and sorry to hear about your situation.

Betrayal can and does hurt! One cannot expect a wound that they receive to heal overnight and such is the case with the wound that is inflicted when one is betrayed and has the other partner begins an affair. Yes, it can and will be hard ...

Once the novelty of the affair wears off, he will begin to see and feel the truth of his error. You have a child and 7 years of bonds together as a family ... hurt and healing happens on both sides. Your time of hurt and healing is now, his will be later.

A mighty blessing that you will come through this ... a better and stronger person!

Hubby

[Lindsay]

Sorry to hear about your tough situation. We have quite a few members going through very similar ordeals, so I'm sure you will find plenty of support here

Lindsay

[logicalvelocity]

Welcome Kim,

Lots of great people here with a wealth of advice, and are able to listen.

LV