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Old 09-21-2010, 11:30 AM
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Sorry. Did I tell you that I love you?

Not lately
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if he bought you a car would you forgive him?? LOL
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Hey, cannot believe that on the eve of my 50th bday, I have to go back to court, cause my ex's wife thinks he should not pay any more even though my daughter is only 16 .....ahhhhhh , go figure
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hello to you all. first time here ...cant wait to write my concern question..
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Old 12-16-2010, 01:22 PM
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There is a big difference between a reality check and rudeness.

An insult doesn't have to be delivered in a back-handed fashion to a newbie who's world is crashing in around them.

A caring wake-up call (slap?) will convey the message better that a flippant remark that does nothing to help the situation (and usually drives the insulted to further response defensitively - a person who already feels under attack).

Remarks that involve hindsight are particularity not helpful.

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What are you getting at there?

For the most part first-time posters are usually asked for clarification over their situation or are handed a gentle reality check if needed. It is often their personal reaction to advice given that determines the further posts. If they are defensive and respond rudely, then it is possible they may not like what they read after that, but if they can sit back and think about what someone else has written, I think most posters get to see things a little differently.

I'm not judging the new posters, we've all been there, and it often is a huge blow to find out what you thought is not what really is. But Piggy, your implication that new posters are going to be judged and treated like garbage is simply NOT TRUE. If it was, I would have to question why you are still posting.
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I do think that this board serves a very good purpose of being a non-lawyer sounding board for thoughts, views, and advice.

All I'm saying is that some new posters are going to be in some very big denial about the situation they find themselves in and it will take more than a post or two to have them see reality.

I was not implying that all new posters are treated like garbage, only that some responses from some members, even with good advice, lack a certain amount of compassion and tact.
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Old 12-16-2010, 05:02 PM
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You don't say. To whom could you possibly be referring???

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And are apparently proud of it.

Go figure.
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