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Old 07-27-2017, 07:02 PM
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Default What does: "until death do us part" mean to you?

or perhaps that phrase was not part of your vows?

I would anticipate that the majority of us voiced the traditional phrase - in sickness, health, for richer, poorer?
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hmmm ... don't recall stating anything about "till death do us part"

I believe "obey" was not part of our vows.
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We wrote our own vows, but they did have all the usual concepts covered, including that one.

I'm sure my ex meant them at the time, but it turns out my ex's word doesn't mean much.
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I do remember while walking down the aisle with my father I was thinking "what the f++k am I doing?"
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lol. I was thinking the same think when I was watching my wife walk down the aisle.

goes to show...trust your instincts lol
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So true, I read through some old journals before I was married, red flags everywhere! How stupid could I be? Of course, if someone had tried to talk some sense into me I probably wouldn't have listened anyways. You think you know everything in your 20's.
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What I do remember is that a few days before we got married my STBX said something that totally creeped me out. He commented that we would both have the same last name on our tombstones and be buried side by side. We were just starting our life and all he could think of was killing me off. He thought it was romantic. I found it disturbing. Turns out I was right,
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or perhaps that phrase was not part of your vows?



I would anticipate that the majority of us voiced the traditional phrase - in sickness, health, for richer, poorer?


I don't like "til death do us part" at all. Vows should not be broken but saying I will be with you until my death is not realistic. If your spouse abuses you or cheats on you multiple times or does some other intolerable thing, the other spouse rightfully deserves an "out". My ex husband broke his vows but technically I broke them too by leaving him when I told him I'd be there until death.


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My partner had the traditional vows minus the part about her obeying him (feminist and all). I remind him of the "in sickness and health" since she turfed him during a major illness.

This week my family went through a major emotional upheaval and my father tried to worm his way in and he did it disrespectfully. My one sibling tried to argue it away and I screamed "FORSAKING ALL OTHERS!!!" as he couldn't stop porking other women throughout their marriage!
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What I do remember is that a few days before we got married my STBX said something that totally creeped me out. He commented that we would both have the same last name on our tombstones and be buried side by side. We were just starting our life and all he could think of was killing me off. He thought it was romantic. I found it disturbing. Turns out I was right,
That is very strange. Don't know of anyone who thinks about death at time of their marriage.

You dodged a bullet in that you don't have to spend your old age with him. I remind myself of this whenever I need a wee pick-me-up.
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