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Old 04-27-2013, 10:04 PM
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why in the Canadian system can someone have kids lose custody of them, see them for 30 hours every 2 months not pay a cent in child support because they decided to quite there job rot on welfare and have more baby's instead of helping support the ones she already has. then complain that i'm not respecting her rights

and by law even though she pays nothing for the kids or help out in anyway nor shows any real interest in them and uses the system in every way she can to get out of any responsibility still demand her rights as their so called mother.and i have to respect that.

on top of that because of welfare she gets free legal aid while i who works my ass off to support 2 kids has to pay thousands of $ to pay for a lawyer

i just don't get it.

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Hey you reproduced with her didn't you? Not the problem of the system my friend. Look between your own legs.

You've left this burden on the tax payers so don't go bitching about the "system."
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Legal aid is broken. There are three ways to be able to participate meaningfully in the legal system:

1) Be rich
2) Be poor
3) Be female and say that your spouse hit you

Otherwise, justice will not be found in the courts, only pain.

Legal aid of course removes the urge to negotiate from the recipient, and drives litigation. If I was a recipient of legal aid, and my ex had to pay for a lawyer, I would definitely try to push for court, why negotiate at all?
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why in the Canadian system can someone have kids lose custody of them, see them for 30 hours every 2 months not pay a cent in child support because they decided to quite there job rot on welfare and have more baby's instead of helping support the ones she already has. then complain that i'm not respecting her rights

and by law even though she pays nothing for the kids or help out in anyway nor shows any real interest in them and uses the system in every way she can to get out of any responsibility still demand her rights as their so called mother.and i have to respect that.

on top of that because of welfare she gets free legal aid while i who works my ass off to support 2 kids has to pay thousands of $ to pay for a lawyer

i just don't get it.


sorry just needed to vent
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Well we don't know much of your story at all, but it's ok to vent here. You will get other posters venting in reply but that's healthy too I suppose. Arabian gave me my first laugh of the day.
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Wear a condom.
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because the canadian family law system favours women. the poor cows cant look after themselves.
Dont judge us all by the actions of a few.
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It saddens me that the OP came here as a newbie to vent about the problems with the system, which we have all done and the best advice the OP gets is they should have had safe sex.

Comments like these in particular are offensive.

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Hey you reproduced with her didn't you? Not the problem of the system my friend. Look between your own legs.

You've left this burden on the tax payers so don't go bitching about the "system."
What would the children feel like if they read this? The OP is not the one on welfare.

To the OP, being shocked at the system of family law in this country is natural and we all went through it when our relationships and lives changed dramatically. Come here to vent and get yourself a good support network. Then either get a lawyer or read up on here and educate yourself how to get what is best for your children by working with the system. Complaining about the system is normal but it will not be changing anytime soon.
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This too is an offensive post.

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Wear a condom.
When you started posting here about your troubles in leaving an abusive relationship did posters say it was your fault and you should have left?

Let's all please remember this is supposed to be a supportive forum for those seeking advice on how to fix their problems with family law, not what one thinks they should have done.
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because the canadian family law system favours women. the poor cows cant look after themselves.
I'm remarking on slughead's reply, not the OP, "faith and morals." If you had read this thread thoroughly, you would have realized this.

And my remark was not meant to be offensive, just advice. I've said this before and I'll say it again ...I like slughead.

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Old 04-28-2013, 02:57 PM
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Wear a Condom is good, sound advice. Perhaps this is less offensive:

It stands to reason that if a gentleman is having sex with someone and doesn't wear protection he very soon may have a child/children to provide for. If the person that engaged in sex (with children from another partner) has no income to support these children then she would definitely looking for ways to get support her children. If the father of the children do not step up to the plate then the mother is going to look to the government to assist her.

Wear a condom. The problem, as I see it, doesn't stem from the government rather from the two who are having sex which may result in children which they cannot afford to support. We, the taxpayers, step up to the plate and provide. The expression "beggars can't be choosers" comes to mind here. If you don't like the sort of support the government gives out then you would have to look elsewhere.
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