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Old 11-11-2014, 11:21 PM
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"Great change in the situation of women took place in the 19th century, especially concerning marriage laws and the legal rights of women to divorce and/or gain custody of children. The situation that fathers always received custody of their children, leaving the mother without any rights, slowly started to change. The Custody of Infants Act in 1839 gave mothers of unblemished character access to their children in the event of separation or divorce, and the Matrimonial Causes Act in 1857 gave women limited access to divorce. But while the husband only had to prove his wife's adultery, a woman had to prove her husband had not only committed adultery but also incest, bigamy, cruelty or desertion.[19] In 1873 the Custody of Infants Act extended access to children to all women in the event of separation or divorce. In 1878, after an amendment to the Matrimonial Causes Act, women could secure a separation on the grounds of cruelty and claim custody of their children." Wikipedia Women in Victorian Era.

It wasn't until almost the end of the Victorian Era that women had ANY chance of obtaining custody of their children regardless of the situation that had prompted divorce or separation. I see that the pendulum is finally starting to settle somewhere closer to the middle ground. Joint custody should be the default, there should be a requirement to prove that something other than joint custody is appropriate. That "proof" is often the point of contention.
Well, my dig about Victorian views was in reference to women‘s property rights, and the attitudes towards the role of fathers in their kid‘s lives. But thanks for the history lesson.
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Old 11-11-2014, 11:57 PM
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I am new here and hate to comment with my limited experience with a view only from my specific situation. Please do not bounce me since another post I made says I feel in my situation the perfect storm has formed. I feel we got off on the wrong foot ( no blame assigned, let's call it equal for the sake of this )

This perfect storm will simply ( this might sound harsh) ruin my life. I sounded optimist at times I know. I have now blown awy God know how much money with lawyers since my effort at mediation with a supposedly "neutral" member member of HER FAMILY family failed.

The perfect storm is slowing forming as I see it. I will not get into it but I am up the crib without a paddle. Not even sure I will have place to stay. Millionaire one day. Next day not to simplify. I will be forced not keep company I do not want to pay her a ridulous of support to give her the lifestyle she is accustomed to. She took what she wanted it and left me to clean everything. All the problems of the house cleanings etc.

She is normenting me saying it is all my fault. My fingers are venting to tonight. Nothing I say gets through to her greedy smell.

She loves to spend hous of time with my beautiful grandchildren effectively cutting me off. Something has to break soon before I do. Tanks for listening to my vent

Your thought would b appreciated if you have any
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Old 11-12-2014, 12:01 AM
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My dearest cherished thing may to go. The cottage.
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Old 11-12-2014, 01:04 AM
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My dearest cherished thing may to go. The cottage.
I'm really seriously telling you - forget everything; lower your expectations otherwise you won't be able to handle what happens next.
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