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Old 02-20-2015, 10:41 PM
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Ok sooo my siginifcant other has 2 adult children 18&22
His ex wife emails or texts him occassionally for money.
I suggested he change his phone# and email so she couldnt bother him.
He responded with "nah i don't see the benefit of doing that!"

My inner freak is freaking out! Should i just pour some wine on my freak or is the red flag a wavin??
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Ya need to sober up.
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Old 02-21-2015, 12:15 AM
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Hahaha! Thanks haven't had a sip!
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Old 02-21-2015, 12:33 AM
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Hahaha! Thanks haven't had a sip!
Maybe that's the problem, go get drunk lol!
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Old 02-21-2015, 12:51 AM
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Ok sooo my siginifcant other has 2 adult children 18&22
His ex wife emails or texts him occassionally for money.
I suggested he change his phone# and email so she couldnt bother him.
He responded with "nah i don't see the benefit of doing that!"

My inner freak is freaking out! Should i just pour some wine on my freak or is the red flag a wavin??
install spyware on his phone and track him?
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Old 02-21-2015, 01:06 AM
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Haha ya and just call me kim bassigner!
Not that interested just thiught it was odd as i cant wait until i dont have to communicate with my ex!!
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Old 02-21-2015, 07:50 AM
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Janibel and Serene are both right! Solution is a coffee with a good splash of Baileys.

I'd let the worry go. The Ex only contacts occasionally and with only one purpose - money, as opposed to messages of regrets. If your SO did change his contact details his EX might still get the info from one of the children.
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Old 02-21-2015, 10:56 AM
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no matter how old the kids get there maybe instances where your man needs to talk to his ex. Like if one of the kids gets hurt or injured. Don't let your insecurities win out. Its his ex and he should deal with her the way he sees fit.
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Old 02-21-2015, 11:15 AM
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I can see this would be highly irritating on two levels:

1- she is asking him for money she is seemingly not entitled to. Not sure if he is giving it to her, but if so it is taking money away from his current family to give to his ex. Not sure if it's for the kids or for her, but i can see how it would be grating if it is for her. If it is for the kids they are old enough to ask dad themselves if they need something.

2- it's an unnecessary connection to his past relationship with her outside of the kids. And that can be bothersome.

He doesn't seem too wound up about it, nor does he seem to want to damage what seems like it could be an amicable relationship. If it's not killing the two of you financially then I would let it go and leave it to him to deal with. Maybe you can let him know it bothers you and you don't agree with it, to the point you would rather not know about it, if that works for you.

If it becomes becomes a pattern where it is starting to have an impact on you financially, I would definitely try to nip it in the bud.
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Old 02-21-2015, 03:06 PM
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You need to let it go. Shes going to email him for whatever reason and he has to keep the contact. Its his business not yours. If he starts making it your business then its a problem. Dont make it your business.
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