Ottawa Divorce .com Forums


User CP

New posts

Advertising

  Ottawa Divorce .com Forums > Main Category > General Chat

General Chat This forum is for discussing anything that doesn't fit into another forum, or for discussing things that are off topic, or just for general venting.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
  #21 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 04:28 PM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Hamilton
Posts: 3,726
HammerDad will become famous soon enough
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by LovingFather32 View Post
I went to police next day to file missing persons

Got lawyer not too long after who tracked down her lawyer and served application

Went for emergency motion

I didnt wait for much.
Not sure the missing person would be necessary, but be that as it may, that is simply my thinking. All told, it was probably a reactionary thing, and those things happen.

But mainly, I felt you did a decent job of acting and not reacting.

My comments to the point in this thread is where you, or anyone, have a question about a matter related to your case, it is almost always better to start another thread with that question. If people ask for information because they haven't read the history, they are likely to read the link if you provide one.
Reply With Quote
  #22 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 05:02 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Posts: 217
Once.is.enough is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Straittohell View Post
HammerDad, I've paraphrased pretty much all of that stuff, based on what has shown up on LF32s threads.

A few people have suggested that since it wasn't appropriate for the ex to do what she is doing, that she should simply be told to stop, and surely, she will. They also make sweeping statements like "surely you must have known something like this was coming, there is no way that someone would mislead you into thinking everything was fine and then just leave without notice."

I'm not kidding. That is partly what inspired me to start this thread. Poor LF32 has painstakingly explain on numerous occasions how everything went down, and yet, there are still people making statements demonstrating complete ignorance of what has been happening to him. That's pretty much what was behind my vent.

There is no fixing stupid but duct tape helps keep it to a minimum
Reply With Quote
  #23 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 05:26 PM
LovingFather32's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Ottawa
Posts: 4,518
LovingFather32 is an unknown quantity at this point
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by HammerDad View Post
Not sure the missing person would be necessary, but be that as it may, that is simply my thinking. All told, it was probably a reactionary thing, and those things happen.

But mainly, I felt you did a decent job of acting and not reacting.

My comments to the point in this thread is where you, or anyone, have a question about a matter related to your case, it is almost always better to start another thread with that question. If people ask for information because they haven't read the history, they are likely to read the link if you provide one.
Oh. Lol. Yea I agree. I should probably make my threads more topic-specific and limit the number of pgs.
Reply With Quote
  #24 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 06:23 PM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 363
Headwaters1 is on a distinguished road
Default

I like the daily burn of the lf32 thread...it is getting huge but I find it interesting.

The only problem I see with it is there is no way I think someone could start from the top and read all the way through.

Both lf32 and I started reading WorkingDads posts and I can say I learned a lot from it. Although there were obviously long gaps in time between posts it was helpful to gleam some instruction from it. So where workingdads post didn't have enough running commentary, lf32 probably has too much for someone in the future to go through.

Not that it's a problem really...it's just a different flavor. I think lf32 digest might be helpful for future cases to fully appreciate all the emotional aspects of the "ride". It helped me read both lf32 and WD not just when they were cool but also when they were burning up .

It helps to say...hey that's exactly how I feel...and then it helps you jettison that baggage faster I think.
Reply With Quote
  #25 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 06:23 PM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Posts: 2,838
stripes is on a distinguished road
Default

If someone creates long, winding threads, the signal-to-noise ratio will inevitably start to drop. That's the risk you take when you tell long, very detailed stories that spin out over hundreds of pages. If you find that someone's post isn't as informative or helpful as it could be because that person isn't aware of details that were explained 87 pages ago, just skip over the post. You don't need to respond in order to set everyone straight. It's just one of the costs of posting on a free Internet forum frequented by interested amateurs.
Reply With Quote
  #26 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 06:31 PM
LovingFather32's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Ottawa
Posts: 4,518
LovingFather32 is an unknown quantity at this point
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by stripes View Post
If someone creates long, winding threads, the signal-to-noise ratio will inevitably start to drop. That's the risk you take when you tell long, very detailed stories that spin out over hundreds of pages. If you find that someone's post isn't as informative or helpful as it could be because that person isn't aware of details that were explained 87 pages ago, just skip over the post. You don't need to respond in order to set everyone straight. It's just one of the costs of posting on a free Internet forum frequented by interested amateurs.
That's a fair account. It becomes tough to skip over when it's argued over 4-5 posts that I didnt do an EM .. or that I don't deserve unsupervised access. But I get your point.
Reply With Quote
  #27 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 08:24 PM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Posts: 2,810
Pursuinghappiness will become famous soon enough
Default

I haven't read this whole thread but I'm pretty sure that I disagree with everything that was said.
Reply With Quote
  #28 (permalink)  
Old 08-27-2014, 09:16 PM
arabian's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Western Canada
Posts: 9,968
arabian will become famous soon enough
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Pursuinghappiness View Post
I haven't read this whole thread but I'm pretty sure that I disagree with everything that was said.
You have paraphrased the title of this thread.
Reply With Quote
  #29 (permalink)  
Old 08-31-2014, 01:52 PM
Tayken's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 6,569
Tayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant futureTayken has a brilliant future
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Pursuinghappiness View Post
I haven't read this whole thread but I'm pretty sure that I disagree with everything that was said.
I like rainbows.

Last edited by Tayken; 08-31-2014 at 02:13 PM.
Reply With Quote
  #30 (permalink)  
Old 09-02-2014, 09:46 AM
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 1,775
dad2bandm is on a distinguished road
Default

I find if posters on here can't ascertain the particular facts of the scenario being presented by someone, they do try to offer the best general advice they can...for an anonymous online Internet forum.

It's practically impossible to follow some of the long-running threads on here. I know, I'm not going to wade through 15+ pages of a thread (or multiple threads), to try and make sure I'm up-to-date on someone's family law issue. Some people enjoy that...I do not.

I think it's really up to the original poster's to try and capture as much good info, concisely, as they can, to properly present their scenario, if they are looking for valuable responses...again, on an anonymous, online Internet forum.

I think poster's who need to rely on multiple long-running threads, to present their scenario, will have a harder time in court (if it comes to that), because it seems like they can't present well. Hopefully, they have a lawyer, who can. Are you going to comment to a judge, "gee, I already explained that in x document, page 255?"
Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 05:00 AM.