Ex show up at house

[blindsided]

Wow it seems everytime i feel like im doing better he does something to bring me down.

I get home from work,my neighbour is out side snowblowing tells me my ex is here. I look up my niece is in the living room window pointing that my ex is in my sons car in the laneway.
So i knock on car window he opens the door and starts yelling. I ask what hes doing here? He says if its any or your business he's borrowing my sons car.

I asked him if he was inside he said yes,and so what do i have a problem with that. Well i do he cant talk to me with out yelling, and hasnt put a dime on anything since he left.

He's wearing me down with what i call and final can see the verbal and mental abuse.
Then he starts yelling that he needs his income tax because he's beeing auidited. That he will be back for me to leave it outside so he can get it. Then he's yelling that i better not have cashed he's 07 income tax, which i didnt, it never came so i dont know whats up with that, so i went to my mom to photo copy his 07 return so i would have a copy.

Now im in panic mode because i really can use a lawyer, and i dont have an appointment until next Thursday. At a rate of 300.00 of which i cant afford.

I'm scared and dont know what to do. Seeing legal aid said i make to much but like i said in other post once i make 4000. from work i will lose my disability, then it will be to late i need lawyer now.

What do i do?

[AtALoss]

Ask around here as there are many that can help. Many of us learned thru experience and know what it is like as we have gone thru the same.

So first take a deep breath.
Always keep a jounal of things he has done or said and what he will do. Do any of your neighbors see the arguements when he does show up. Try to keep any contact with him outside the home. If he has moved out he does not need to be there if you do not want him to be. So you have the upper hand in that you can get more assistance with the police if ever needed. I dont want to seem dramatic here but the more documented stories and complaints the better.
Also on that same token keep records/copies of any transactions that happen between you both. ie if he were to pay for something make note of it. even give a copy to him.

As for lawyers and courts dont let them intimidate you. talk with your lawyer and acknowledge that you need his help but be honest about your situation too. Ask if there are anyways that you can do things to help on your own but under thier guideance. My spouse went self represented for 6 yrs and hired the lawyer for the end. While his case is exceptional my point being is that our lawyer understands our situation and allows us to do alot of leg work etc.
Some things that you can do on your own you can get help here. (forms & proceedures etc)

I do know what you are going thru though as My ex is much like yours. It does take time we do get stronger as we learn. You will be ok.
Write to me anytime if you need advice etc or to sound off to some one.

[dadtotheend]

Let him know in writing that he's not welcome around your house and that you aren't willing to communicate with him when there is yelling going on, period, end of story.

Go out of your way not to engage with him. If you see him in your son's car again or similar, ignore him. If you have his property in your home, copy what you want and get the rest out of your house and to him without incident.

If he calls you and yells at you, for anything, use a short stock answer that gets it across that you're not willing to communicate when uncivil behaviour is demonstrated, and hang up.

Go out of your way not to engage with him, which just creates an opportunity for the yelling and wearing you down.