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Old 12-03-2012, 07:09 PM
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Tell Dad you have a trip planned (give dates) and will gladly let him have access shortly after you return home.

In the meantime, find a lawyer or go talk to duty counsel for some free advice.
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Old 12-03-2012, 07:18 PM
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Get a lawyer - that should be your top priority now. Do it now - don't wait till January.

Who cares if he thinks you are alienating him from his children?
Does he care about providing support?
Don't contact him unless it's through your lawyer.
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Ringetteplayer, I'm so sorry that you're having such a hellish time. I'm also sorry that I cannot help you right now, but surely others with knowledge of your particular problem will be able to give you advice.
Stay strong.
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ok...didn't see the good advice from firhill and arabian. Been very busy lately.

Yes, get a good lawyer ASAP. They get extra busy after Christmas and New Year's.
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Old 12-04-2012, 02:32 AM
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hi thanks im exhausting myself trying to get in with a lawyer asap!! thanks arabian you are right so what if he doesnt like it i have to protect my kids first.

thanks firhill and caranna fingers crossed i can get a lawyer

everyday i keep realizing how much i jump when he rings the bell(emails me)
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Old 12-20-2012, 10:59 AM
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Sooo my ex has been emailing me for the kids on christmas holidays he wanted them for the whole duration or one week. He hasn't seen them in 6 months. I offered him 4 days. He refused. He told me No and that I am not being reasonable..... I am shocked shocked shocked

chime in anyone I am lost
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He is being a bully.Ignore him.Get a lawyer.Had a similar demand which was met with a two day offer.He is being an ass,but you were married to this guy.You know how he operates.Don't take it personally and please dont be intimidated by his threat of parental alienation .Every two bit scumbag lawyer is using that "alienation"as a way for abusers to gain custody of their kids.At this point it is being overused by so many abusers as to take away from real cases.You have not been denying contact or access.

Be strong, be fair and be prudent.Above all enjoy the holidays
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Old 12-20-2012, 11:42 AM
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Thanks. it's true his tyoe never changes their stripes! I was shocked I honestly thought he would of jumped at the 4 days I would of thought anytime is better than no time. I offered Christmas Day as well that wasn't good enough.

I feel for my kids as they think their dad is going to surprise them on Christmas Day. My optimistic little bees!! Again its just another mess I will be mopping up because of him. He has little regard for the children's interest only his own at least that is my opinion. And yes I was married to him and now that I am separated I see all the bully tactics. Regardless of the games our children are feeling it he reaps what he sews i guess. It's all about hurting me and spiting me.

i don;t know what he gains out of behaving like this i guess only he knows
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Ignore him. I suspect he is just playing another game with you. If he was serious about wanting to see the kids you would have been contacted by a lawyer by now. Don't waste your time with this loser.
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haha thanks arabian. I suspected too that he was just playing some sort of a game, he expected a no and got a yes and didn;t like my answer.

I did manage to get a lawyer and she seems pretty feisty. keep you all posted
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