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Old 11-18-2012, 06:37 PM
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That's great news! Maybe your stbx had a huge change of heart. Strike while the iron is hot and file those papers as Arabian suggests.

"..all my paperwork just came in my lawyer wanted my marriage cert my property assessment and my bank account info so <<fingers crossed>> papers gets signed this week!! So he can at least be served, not sure how much longer until something is court enforced tho....
I can't wait to get this ball rolling for my present !!!"

Sounds like things get resolved pretty quick in Alberta!
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soo i just rec'd an email from stbx "i would like to get the kids for christmas since you have been non-compliant"

are u kidding me i responded a couple days later addressing the non compliant remark stating that he has only asked for the kids 3 times in the past 9 months and 2 or which HE cancelled. I said no but was flexible on the 3rd try.

he just emailed me again saying that he wants the kids jan 1-jan10

all 3 of my kids are in elementary school.

i said yes to christmas as they will be in Ontario and he can pick them up from a relatives at 1.

he said he is wanting to fly all 3 of them to alberta their ages are 12,8,5? I would have to trust that he was their on the other side to pick them up? after he hasnt seen them since july? still he pays no support of any kind.

thoughts? i put a call into my lawyer to see what she advises me if anyone can offer suggestions to me i appreciate it,

i do know his game is to get me to say NO therefore he wants to use that no as his see she denies me the kids bs.
i can almost guarantee he has a trip booked during his requested times, I am positive he is just looking for me to say no to justify his own behavior
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I would be making sure that they are round trip tickets that are non-refundable. From everything you have said about the guy I wouldnt trust him. He is probably trying to get you to say no so he will have something against you.
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I'd probably insist that he come get them or arrange to have a relative of his escort them there. He's making the big bucks now, shouldn't be a problem. It would be devastating for your kids if he cancelled at the last minute.
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soo i just rec'd an email from stbx "i would like to get the kids for christmas since you have been non-compliant"

are u kidding me i responded a couple days later addressing the non compliant remark stating that he has only asked for the kids 3 times in the past 9 months and 2 or which HE cancelled. I said no but was flexible on the 3rd try.

he just emailed me again saying that he wants the kids jan 1-jan10

all 3 of my kids are in elementary school.

i said yes to christmas as they will be in Ontario and he can pick them up from a relatives at 1.

he said he is wanting to fly all 3 of them to alberta their ages are 12,8,5? I would have to trust that he was their on the other side to pick them up? after he hasnt seen them since july? still he pays no support of any kind.

thoughts? i put a call into my lawyer to see what she advises me if anyone can offer suggestions to me i appreciate it,

i do know his game is to get me to say NO therefore he wants to use that no as his see she denies me the kids bs.
i can almost guarantee he has a trip booked during his requested times, I am positive he is just looking for me to say no to justify his own behavior
Take how he is acting and what he is or isn't trying to do out of it as its irrelevant. I know it's hard, however, what do you feel the children could reasonably manage?

Focus on only that aspect.
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Old 11-28-2012, 05:25 PM
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Ok, so are you saying he wants to pay to have them flown to him on New Years Day - January 1st - and keep them till Jan 10th?

My instinct would be to say sure...providing he will sign an agreement of return on January 10 and that has a proven way of getting them to you (in Alberta) on January 10th.

Basically, since you have no agreements of any kind he could, in all fairness, keep the kids and not return them. You would want something from him, in writing, through the lawyers, that provides a course of action should he try this.
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Old 11-28-2012, 05:43 PM
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Hi yes thanks everyone I've virtually had zero contact with him since September when he told me if I contacted him again he would call the RCMP on me once again!

I appreciate all your comments that can assist me through this delicate situation as I know he is trying to build a case against me
He believes using the denying access is his poison.
Everything with him is money motivated he emailed me last night that he shouldn't pay for anything to do with our house in Ontario as he doesn't live there. he said he doesn't pay support because he doesn't see the kids.
When I talk to my lawyer what questions do I ask so my children are safe yet can enjoy their holiday with their dad?! Thank u all
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Old 11-28-2012, 05:51 PM
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Why do I have visions of you sending the kids off and then having to fight to get them back???????


No agreement - no kids. Don't be feeling guilty about keeping them from their father - he's doing it himself. Sounds like an absolute prick.
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I agree with MiViLaLoco and Arabian. Get a signed agreement that he will return them before agreeing.
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Arabian that is horrible advice... she has not right to keep the kids from their father because there is no agreement. I believe that is called blackmail? Besides, even with an agreement, he could decide not to return the children and she would have just as hard of a fight as not having an agreement.

Given is track record he will most likely cancel, which sucks for the children, but you do have to give him the benefit of the doubt.

The only thing you should be asking for is travel itinerary, including round trip air fare and non-refundable (as Standing pointed out above).

OP- remember, you may hate him, but he is still the children's father, maybe it took him all this time to get his crap sorta straightened out, and lets face it, I am sure the children would LOVE to see their father. Always be their mother before you are his ex.
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