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Old 11-05-2012, 05:57 PM
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in 9 months my 3 children have seen their dad for 5 days, back in July.,
he does not ask to see them nor does he fly to see them.,
my 5 y/o son scored his first hockey goal. i feel sad for them as i know they ask why doesn;t their dad stop working so he can see them., meanwhile he just up and left and started a different life.,
if i call or text him he threatens me with the cops.
i do believe he has abandoned them., by the court i don't know but it kinda looks that way.
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in 9 months my 3 children have seen their dad for 5 days, back in July.,
he does not ask to see them nor does he fly to see them.,
my 5 y/o son scored his first hockey goal. i feel sad for them as i know they ask why doesn;t their dad stop working so he can see them., meanwhile he just up and left and started a different life.,
if i call or text him he threatens me with the cops.
i do believe he has abandoned them., by the court i don't know but it kinda looks that way.
Why do you ask?

I'm just not sure what you are looking for.
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i already know have the answer right?? i wasn;t really asking anything i guess i was just sad and venting and looking for a tiny beckon of hope that that wasnt true....
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seems to me like he did
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thanks i guess i already knew.... i just see differently when i put the reality glasses on
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i already know have the answer right?? i wasn;t really asking anything i guess i was just sad and venting and looking for a tiny beckon of hope that that wasnt true....
Based on your version of the story it would seem that way.

I'm not saying his version is different but we do only have 1 side of a story.
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true.

however, he will say the same thing as he bought a house in another province and never returned.
he says its cause he can;t get time off work, or he cant afford to see them.
he doesn't pay child support, his reason he doesn;t see them.....
he doesn;t pay spousal, his reason he doesnt need too....

that's the story, that's all i have i don't even have his address, i have his work cell#
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however, he will say the same thing as he bought a house in another province and never returned.
he says its cause he can;t get time off work, or he cant afford to see them.
he doesn't pay child support, his reason he doesn;t see them.....
he doesn;t pay spousal, his reason he doesnt need too....

that's the story, that's all i have i don't even have his address, i have his work cell#
I have read your previous posts and followed whats going on.

It seems to be a pretty sad situation for your children.
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i feel like it is a very unfortunate situation for them for sure., its very difficult trying to make sense of it to the children
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in 9 months my 3 children have seen their dad for 5 days, back in July.,
he does not ask to see them nor does he fly to see them.,
my 5 y/o son scored his first hockey goal. i feel sad for them as i know they ask why doesn;t their dad stop working so he can see them., meanwhile he just up and left and started a different life.,
Out of all this the only relevant matter is that the other parent is not exercising access to the children. So long as you don't put conditions on your children's access to the other parent then you don't have anything to worry about. But, if there is a stream of emails where you are demonstrating "control" over the matter you should be ok.

It is disappointing that the opportunity for equal and shared residency sounds like a possibility in what you are stating and that joint custody wouldn't be an issue for you as a parent. Disappointing that the other parent hasn't realized this and jumped on the opportunity.

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if i call or text him he threatens me with the cops.
Document the situation and keep it as evidence. Just leave it open that should the other parent want equal access and joint custody there isn't an issue for you.

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i do believe he has abandoned them., by the court i don't know but it kinda looks that way.
Abandonment isn't really a great word to put around what you are sharing. Matters are complex and people often do not act in the most appropriate ways after separation. Don't let the past months define your children's future relationship with their parent. Keep the door open and keep hoping.

Good Luck!
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