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Old 02-07-2017, 03:16 PM
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My partners ex has a pattern with her emails. If she has forgotten to do something properly or has failed to provide proper documentation, she includes a rambling ridiculous passive aggressive email that is about six paragraphs too long and unnecessary since she hasnt actually including relevant info. It makes my partner (and to a point me) crazy. He handles it by drafting his own direct response in WORD and then responds to the email with one sentence relating to the relevant items. For instance "nothing was attached to this email, please send proper documentation immediately for reimbursement". Or simply "yes I will pay my proportionate share as long as the total expense does not exceed the estimate provided".

You cannot reason with an unreasonable person so why waste your energy on a response? Fixing a drink takes less time and is 150% more satisfying.
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Old 02-07-2017, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by ghostofaman View Post
This is what I wasn't sure about - Should I address the nasty language and tell them that I won't respond to it, or should I just answer the question and ignore the hateful crap around it?
I've tried asking her to be polite but that didn't go over well at all.
I don't have very thick skin and the constant accusations are getting to me..
Tell them you will only respond to messages that don't contain hateful crap. Repeat that exact sentence every time you get a nastygram, and don't answer the question until you get a politegram. There's no reason why you should have to wade through hateful crap in order to deal with practical questions.
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Old 02-07-2017, 06:18 PM
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Friend of mine has the same issue. When he replies to the email he deletes all the crap that was typed by the ex. He just leaves the pertinent request, then responds to it.
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Old 02-07-2017, 11:31 PM
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In my opinion answer simply and factually and ignore the rudeness.

I think my ex wants a reaction, so I just ignore the antics.

I finally see how much she would push my buttons while we were married. She just liked to start fights.
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