You are a liar

[iceberg]

My ex left to me to enroll our child to preschool this year. I am working on it. (deciding which school to pick out of 3 i found)

My ex came today and asked who will drive the child to school. I said me once i register her. She said you told me you registered her in school. (I NEVER EVEN MENTIONED THE WORD REGISTERED) I said nope, I never said that, last convo we had about this was in April and that's it. She called me a liar and left.

I honestly never mentioned school to her since April when we decided where she will attend school.

Left me confused as why would she say that. Weird

[Mess]

This happens. It's not a question of "why", it a matter of hearing what you want to hear, mishearing, missremembering, putting emphasis on certain words and not others, believing what is convenient. Add to that she is probably in a bad mood and wanted something to blame you for.

A big reason why I have always insisted with my ex that these things are email only.

[iceberg]

Originally Posted by Mess

A big reason why I have always insisted with my ex that these things are email only.

I so badly wanna do that as we both have phones with data access I wanna cut all verbal communications with her unless totally unnecessary but we are not in serious conflict and my family says don't do that because it may cause tension and problems between us just leave it until/unless they (ex and family) starts talking or doing some serious and constant shit.

[Mess]

Just don't answer the phone. Ask her to verify any phone message in an email, say your phone isn't giving messages, technical problems, etc. Bullshit.

After 2 weeks she'll settle into email mode, just don't make it threatening. If she's a natural liar, she'll be intimidated by having email proof shoved in her face every time she plays games. Save it for important things.

The main thing is, when a question comes up, email. Email again 24 hrs later if you don't get a reply. Don't answer if she calls. Don't acknowledge phone messages. Starve her out, if she only has email access to you, that's what she'll use.

[inseperationhell]

The email communication only and verify each verbal conversation with an email is now saving my butt. Things were civil at the beginning, not so much now. Now I am being accused of saying/agreeing to ABC and he is denying DEF.... my lawyer now has a full accurate account of all conversations/decisions made about the kids, finances, custody in email format. I can now stay silent on the he said/she said and I just forward on the applicable email as a reminder of the "real" story. No matter how amicable it seems - email communication can:
1) cover your butt
2) keep it amicable by avoiding a "I never said that" argument
3) refresh your own memory of events/decisions made before you speak months later to them

[first timer]

I use email for all of my communication; my ex every once in awhile will try to discuss "other" things on the phone when she calls about our kids. If its a non-issue (one that has a yes or no reply), I will answer otherwise its send me an email on the matter and I will get back to you; if I do agree to something I send a confirmation email so their is a record of the agreement; it keeps conflict at a minimal, reduces the amount of interaction between us and its a running log of all communication between us; no more he said/she said