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Old 09-18-2014, 09:30 AM
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But if you do learn where she finds them, let me know, as I'm obviously doing something wrong.
Plenty of Fish, apparently. She must be running a baby-sitting service too, because she watches these guys kids while they go out...

It's just frustrating, to see my money going out the door to someone whom has never had a bone of ambition in their life. Let me be clear, if she had actually given up a career to stay home, that would be a different story. I would get it, there would have been a financial loss as compared to not having stayed home.

The deal was she was going to stay home from her minimum wage job until our son was full-time school. He started school, and she refused to go back to work, or for some kind of educational program... wanted to be a SAH mom, for a child who was full time school.

Now she is getting more money per year from me than she has EVER made in her life. ie child and spousal support together "pays" her $20.19 an hour (40 hours x 52 weeks) to troll Plenty of Fish for the next sucker.

Thanks for your support here, I cant talk to my girlfriend about this, me having to give half of my net pay to my ex is a bit of a sore point. She's divorced too, but no kids... and no support, since she is an adult who can nicely support herself, as can her ex husband.

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How long are you on the hook for the spousal?
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The guy is probably envious of you. You don't have to take the bitch out for expensive meals to get laid anymore.
You mean that one time a year she wants to get some. Haaha
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How long are you on the hook for the spousal?
7 years, have paid 0.75 years already. Married for 8 n change.

I had voluntarily been paying her support for 2 years, but I got bent over backwards on that deal.

She refused to acknowledge the support in the final agreement for tax purposes or "time credits". The support I was paying her was table minus bill payments (visa, LOC, her car) she dropped in my lap, before I went bankrupt.

Her lawyer filed a motion for back support, etc.. was claiming that I had rung up all the joint debt, etc etc etc.

That experience left me feeling like a human ATM.

I had income imputed against her, for twice of her NOAs. How often do you hear of a support recipient having income imputed against them? I think that's very telling of the situation....
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I can't get over the part where you owe her 7 years for 8 years of marriage.
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I can't get over the part where you owe her 7 years for 8 years of marriage.
Me neither.


She played every possible card, she wanted cash for life, and wasn't shy about it. Tried to use our sons VERY minor learning disability as basis for not being able to work - brought this up in court, tried to get OCL involved. It was SO much stupider than it needed to be.


Honestly, I was waiting her for her to flop herself onto the court room floor and try to say she was disabled. She did cry every single court appearance.


When I see her with a new well off boyfriend, I'm more than just a little frustrated / sceptical / irritated.
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On the bright side, if she hasn't nailed a new permanent sugar daddy in 6 years, she will still have no job, no career, and you will suddenly be flush, and free of her forever. (yeah, you'll still pay child support, but even that ends at some point)
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On the bright side, if she hasn't nailed a new permanent sugar daddy in 6 years, she will still have no job, no career, and you will suddenly be flush, and free of her forever. (yeah, you'll still pay child support, but even that ends at some point)
Oh god I know.

I'm thinking there will be an new Audi in the driveway the next day..
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She has full custody? If so that is the source of high SS and what not....
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She has full custody? If so that is the source of high SS and what not....
Yup, ran off with the kid, 400km away, and I was too stupid to not file a motion at once to have him brought back.


Fought me tooth and nail the entire way, it was a struggle for EOW. Was on the supervised access program for a short while. ALL BS.

Shared custody would have only reduced things a few hundred a month. There is about a $90,000 difference in our incomes, with imputing.
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