What is the BEST part of divorce to you.

[rustedinnocence]

finding out the truth about who he REALLY is.... enough of being deceived - my eyes are now wide open

[lestatt28]

I have just started the whole process, but it has been said to me before by a good friend. When you are married and alone, there is no light to be seen at the end. But when you make the decision to go it alone at least you are alone with the potential for happiness! I just like the fact that if I do some cleaning or whatever...there is no criticizing or verbal throwing up. I do not have to measure up to someone else standards. I love the FREEEEEEDOM to live MY live and not my other half.

[choochoo]

Being able to wear skirts & dresses again.
Knowing my body is mine and mine alone.
Going to sleep in peace, feeling like a whole person.

[pokeman]

not crying in traffic on drive home from work

no longer afraid to say hi and chat with neighbors or friends

the list goes on

i still cant leave the toilet seat up but i've had the same socks
on for 3 days now - not that i really enjoy it either - but its a reminder
to me this weekend I can do it if i want

[Nadia]

Might have added to this thread some weeks back but I just thought of some more stuff,

1. Being able to spend time with the children
2. Being able to call my family in England without having anyone listening in
3. Not having to hear that I don't know how to take care of the children properly by him, by his parents and his extended family
4. Being able to buy groceries with my own money without having to ask permission on how I can spend my earnings
5. Being able to eat fish and meat in my own home if I want
6. Being able to open the utility bills and other mail addressed to me without getting yelled at for doing so
7. Being able to water the lawn
8. Not have to attend weddings and parties of people I don't know every weekend
9. Being able to read a book in bed if I want
10. Being able to listen to music I enjoy
11 Being able to speak to strangers and say hello
12. Not having to hear about how England, UK (where I was born and grew up) is the most awful place on earth by his parents
13. Being able to get a Christmas Tree for the kids at Christmas
14. Getting my life, freedom and confidence back.

No regrets for getting divorced. For those of you going through it, it is not easy going through separation and divorce but it does get better. You will look back one day and know that you made the right decision for yourself and the children.

Nadia

[AnarX]

One good thing that I can identify is the effect that divorce will have on budgeting. My wife has always been an irresponsible freeloading spender of our family money. She always resisted attempts to design a family budget for our expenses.

Now, with spousal and child support payments, I will have control over our family spending for the first time ever. She will no longer be able to use sex and money as weapons to get what she wants. Too bad it requires divorce to get to this point.

What a pathetic way of looking on the bright side.

[dadtotheend]

Sex is freewheeling now dude.

[AnarX]

Ha! I guess so.

The pathetic thing is that I have not lost one ounce of desire for my stbx wife. I am having a hard time letting go.

Oh, well. Maybe I can teach my boys to choose better when it is their turn.

[Epona]

There are a lot of good things about being divorced --
we can have pets (ex didn't want pets). Now we have two cats and two goldfish
There is less clutter
We can goof off and be silly without fear of offending him
I can sleep at night without fearing him
I don't have to deal with or see ex on a daily basis (he's only in my thoughts when I have to deal with him, or I'm here!)
I am much, much freer and I like that -- I like that a lot! :-)

[ele110]

Having more space to hang my clothes in the cupboard.
Not having to step on his shoes thrown in the middle of the hallway.
Not waking up to his snoring.
Not wondering why he is not home yet.
Stop expecting, hoping and being disappointed.