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Old 03-08-2006, 01:53 AM
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Default What is the BEST part of divorce to you.

Okay - divorce sucks. We all know that. Especially for the kids. Personally I loved what I heard on dr phil the other day( did I actually say that???lol ) That it is better for kids to be from a broken home then to live in one.

But with that disclaimer what did you find the BEST thing about getting separated/divorced? I want to hear all the positive things about it. Even if they sound really stupid and petty. Most of them are -- but the pleasures are small and enjoyable.

Deciding what I eat - I can have frosted flakes for dinner if I want with no funny looks - except the cat and those looks are more hungry looks ;-)

okay a total cliche but no toilet seat up- You would think after all this time I would be used to it being up. but nope. You men must love less nagging about it ;-)

The closet all to myself - it's so spacious.

Decorating to my taste and only my taste.

All the support friends and family have shown me - I would have never felt so loved had I not needed it. *sniff sniff*

Along that line- realizing how strong I could be when needed.

No toothpaste goop in the sink- yuck- or at least if there is it is MINE

I don't keep tempting foods for me in the house anymore - and I don't have to anymore for him

A clean place- or if i am lazy- only my mess.

Less grocery shopping to do. Less to carry into my place.

Not having to consult someone else about what I want to buy or do. I'm a night owl and an insomniac at times- so it is awesome to be up and about without worrying about waking your partner. I can vacuum at 3 am if i want

I seem to have tons of time to myself to do what I want now.( maybe it goes with being an insomniac ) I am getting into hobbies I have forgotten about and looking into new and exciting things. ( have to do with the time and with that my routine has changed and I am now looking for new things to do- mostly me not my former partner.)


So tell me all the good things about being Divorced, Remarried or Single! I want to revel in my singlehood:-)
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Old 03-08-2006, 10:47 AM
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Thumbs up definitely financial autonomy

The single best thing about being divorced is being in control of my own finances. I always managed the finances in my marriage too but with 2 pairs of hands in the pot it was always a losing battle. Now for the first time in my life I am actually getting OUT of debt instead of going in to debt. (legal fees excepted)
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Old 03-08-2006, 11:12 AM
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Having the TV remote controller all to myself.
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Old 03-08-2006, 11:35 AM
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Hey guys...


The best part is

1. Being single
2. Not having to COOK AND CLEAN all the time. My house is the way I leave it in the morning.

o and 3

No falling in the toilet in the middle of the night cause the seat is up. ha ha ha
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Old 03-08-2006, 01:10 PM
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Thank you for this thread! I am in such grief right now that I have been completely unable to consider the good things.

I can totally relate - being able to eat cereal for supper if i want, having my place in the same state of cleanliness as I left it when I get home after work, not having to have junk food surrounding me at home for someone else's sake, and actually saving some money (however tiny the amount).

Thanks for reminding me of these things.
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Old 03-08-2006, 06:53 PM
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ooooo

okay "smile" you'll like this one....

See I like junk food, cereal for dinner is one thing, my fav. for dinner is cheese and onion butties (sorry sandwhiches) yum they are the best.

I can wait two weeks to clean the bathroom... or how about this one... I don't have smelly dirty underwear in the middle of the bedroom floor....
I can wait three day's and still have only three dishes in the sink....

and I have two kids... go figure... ha ha ha (both girls - well trained... lol)
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Old 03-08-2006, 11:31 PM
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Those are awesome ones!

Thought of another - a great big bed to myself with no snoring man beside me I still don't use the middle of the bed though- it is odd- so many years of sleeping on one side of the bed - can't break that habit.

jenny
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Old 03-12-2006, 04:45 PM
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I know this is an older post, but I got to reading it and smiled as I did. I wanted to keep it going cuz I think it's a great thread.

For me:

- I can read my books without having someone scowl at me and saying " get your nose out of that book and dry the dishes" Ha! Now I purposly leave the dishes and revel in being able to read whenever I want!

- No more being forced to watch home improvement shows! This used to drive me nuts and I was forced to watch them for hours and hours on friday nights...we never had the money to improve our home, so this made it worse. It was always a constant reminder of how little we had.

- My razor is all MINE! Woo Hoo!

- I can be myself for the first time in nearly 20 years. Wow.... ex used to always give me a look when I'd make a funny joke at social gatherings ...the kind of look which told me " shut up you're embarassing me" or " you're an idiot". I always thought I was being funny and showing a side of my personality....a side I really liked! Funny how I lost that enjoyment and playfulness in myself. So good to have that back and I feel like myself again.

-I can eat in the livingroom!

-I don't have to ask permission or be reprimanded for buying a book anymore.

-I feel that there is possibility in life. The world looks so different to me now.

-Toilet seat UP!!!! Woo Hoo! ( hehe..sorry ladies)

-To end off and reiterate...I've found a piece of myself that was lost for so long. What an amazing feeling that truly is...

I enjoyed this thread so much! Thanks!
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Old 03-16-2006, 06:43 PM
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Quote:
- I can read my books without having someone scowl at me and saying " get your nose out of that book and dry the dishes" Ha! Now I purposly leave the dishes and revel in being able to read whenever I want!
hehe, well thats gotta be a positive!

Perhaps oneday you will once again have someone scowl at you
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Old 03-17-2006, 12:16 PM
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how about:
- not having to make excuses to my family for why I was attending a family function (again) without my husband
- watching what I want on TV; and turning it off when I don't feel like watching TV
- being able to talk on the phone without being interrupted by "who's that?" and "what does she want?"
- not being depressed all the time about living with someone I no longer liked
- sometimes being right instead of always being wrong in discussions
- having a clean house
- decorating decisions are all mine
- decisions in general are all mine!
- no mood swings to deal with, except my own -lol
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