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Old 03-25-2013, 02:23 PM
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Lol u cant even have sex while worrying, stress causes ED in men
Well then, clearly my ex lied in his affidavit because he swore to the stress I caused, the job caused etc., but he never suffered from ED; on the contrary, it was always his position (and probably the only thing I ever agreed with him about) that that sex reduced stress
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I'm supposed to run a 10K on April 28th. Ran the 5K last year and looking to challenge myself. Not sure if it's a good idea now lol.
I think its a great idea.

I do think its just about distracting yourself and understanding that its going to be stressful for a while. It helped me a lot that I had a partner to speak to that was going through a similar life event. I definitely think having someone to talk to helps.

If its any consolation, you are at the worst part of the process (at least it was for me). I also got pretty stressed during my custody evaluation but I was moving so I had a lot of distraction and busied myself making sure I had all the documents I needed for the evaluator. But by that time, I was at least out of the house and once that happens, you'll find a lot of your stress and anxiety level will decrease.

There is nothing better than being in your own space after what you've been through FB...trust me on that.

Once I got settled, I also got back into weight training. I'm not sure why feeling physically stronger helps me feel calmer..but it does.

And yea, great sex always helps
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wow you guys are impressive! 95 marathons oink?

How inspiring!

My brag to stress-busting activities would have to be eating. The last time I ran anywhere would probably have been a few years back when I had to dash from a parking lot to the pro shop to make my tee time. I probably didn't run but rather shuffled.
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I think its a great idea.

I do think its just about distracting yourself and understanding that its going to be stressful for a while. It helped me a lot that I had a partner to speak to that was going through a similar life event. I definitely think having someone to talk to helps.

If its any consolation, you are at the worst part of the process (at least it was for me). I also got pretty stressed during my custody evaluation but I was moving so I had a lot of distraction and busied myself making sure I had all the documents I needed for the evaluator. But by that time, I was at least out of the house and once that happens, you'll find a lot of your stress and anxiety level will decrease.

There is nothing better than being in your own space after what you've been through FB...trust me on that.

Once I got settled, I also got back into weight training. I'm not sure why feeling physically stronger helps me feel calmer..but it does.

And yea, great sex always helps
That's good to know.

Her lawyer was served my motion paperwork this morning. She was much calmer than I expected on many of the other "servings" who knows what this one will bring.

One step at a time.

I'm for sure running the marathon, just not sure the 10k vs. the 5k was a wise decision. lol
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I'm also very impressed with everyone who runs marathons. I'm waiting for the weather to warm up before walking again. The fresh air and exercise really helps clears my mind.
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You're probably all skin and bones you poor thing. Yes please do post some pictures.

I will try to shuffle faster when I go up the stairs (at least 9 of them).

Make sure you eat something......
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I try to aim for 15 - 25 miles cardio per week and weight training. I'm pretty sure if I wasn't exercising, I'd be even more stressed. (Possibly insane :s)

Lol, iceberg: women don't need to worry about ED although a woman's libido can also be greatly affected by stress.

@oink: why don't you get a real mattress? You can always take it with you when you move. Better than an air mattress any day!!

I seriously need to try Yoga and see what the hype is about
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^ I already feel enough "pain."

I'm thinking regular yoga should do the trick. I don't like extreme heat and with my luck, I'd end up stuck in some awful position and have to be carried out, all sweaty. Excercising in a "rainforest climate" isn't my thing.
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I'm thinking regular yoga should do the trick. I don't like extreme heat and with my luck, I'd end up stuck in some awful position and have to be carried out, all sweaty. Excercising in a "rainforest climate" isn't my thing.
Yea, I hate hot rooms when I exercise...I like fresh oxygen and cool, non-moldy air. I've seen hot yoga and its a crappy fad if you ask me. If you want to be warm when you stretch, just workout first...you have lots of blood flow then and don't have to fake it with steam.

The best yoga I tried was sling/suspension yoga and that's saying a lot considering that I think yoga is a colossal waste of time. You are in a sling hanging from the ceiling which helps to elongate your pose and you're weightless. However, like I said...I think yoga is a goofy waste of time. I guess I'd do it if I was 80 years old and couldn't do other types of workouts.

I stretch anyway for 10 minutes after I workout and working out actually is productive. I like to process oxygen, gain cardio and fitness, and increase muscle mass if I have an hour of time. Yoga doesn't really accomplish those goals. Its fine if you have injuries or need a stretching day though.

I think the reason people like it so much is a) Its a fad b) Anyone can do it (which is good...any fitness is good) and c) you can do it at whatever level pretty easily. I have no problem with any form of exercise, moving is great...but if I'm gonna workout, I'm gonna WORKOUT! I like maximizing my workout effectiveness in the time I have.

I apologize to all you yoga lovers for my rant...lol.
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Yea, I hate hot rooms when I exercise...I like fresh oxygen and cool, non-moldy air. I've seen hot yoga and its a crappy fad if you ask me. If you want to be warm when you stretch, just workout first...you have lots of blood flow then and don't have to fake it with steam.

The best yoga I tried was sling/suspension yoga and that's saying a lot considering that I think yoga is a colossal waste of time. You are in a sling hanging from the ceiling which helps to elongate your pose and you're weightless. However, like I said...I think yoga is a goofy waste of time. I guess I'd do it if I was 80 years old and couldn't do other types of workouts.

I stretch anyway for 10 minutes after I workout and working out actually is productive. I like to process oxygen, gain cardio and fitness, and increase muscle mass if I have an hour of time. Yoga doesn't really accomplish those goals. Its fine if you have injuries or need a stretching day though.

I think the reason people like it so much is a) Its a fad b) Anyone can do it (which is good...any fitness is good) and c) you can do it at whatever level pretty easily. I have no problem with any form of exercise, moving is great...but if I'm gonna workout, I'm gonna WORKOUT! I like maximizing my workout effectiveness in the time I have.

I apologize to all you yoga lovers for my rant...lol.
I agree with a workout being a workout.

I try to maintain 85% MHR (Maximum Heart Rate) for at least 50 minutes. For me that's a HR of 158. I also try to get at least a couple of minutes in at 90% or HR of 167.

When I was 60 lbs heavier I couldn't maintain 85% for more than 30 seconds. So I was doing intervals. Now I can maintain for the whole hour or more.

My blood pressure went from 128/97 to 108/72 and I went from a size 46 to 34/36.

My original goal is now 5 lbs away. and I may try for another 20 after that. We will see how I feel.

People always ask me what my secret is or what great diet I am on. When I say exercise and portion control they all roll their eyes

You really have to change your lifestyle. Now the trick is maintaining that healthy lifestyle.
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