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Old 06-11-2013, 05:37 PM
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Our separation agreement states (she still has not signed it yet btw)

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3.21 It is acknowledged and agreed that where reference is made in this Agreement to “in writing”, that text messages do not qualify.
STBX went sending a bunch of text messages in response to an email I sent her regarding our summer schedule and how she totally disagreed with it even though it follows what's in the agreement.

I simply told her to respond to the email and she said no text is fine. I then sent her one last text stating that I would no longer respond to text messages only email. Then I sent the following message after each text message she has sent me since.

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Undeliverable: Phone number 416-XXX-XXXX has blocked SMS messages from phone number 416-XXX-XXXX
She then sent the following email

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Subject: Games

I don't know what kinda games ur playing XXXX u really need to grow up. U talk about doing things in a mature manner and then u block me from texting u and ur not answering ur phone. Ur children wanted to say goodnight they wonder why u never call them to say goodnight. I'm done communicating with you via email. I don't always have internet access I told u that in front of the lawyers. You really need to grow up! The only ones your hurting is the children.

Sent from my iPhone
I was in a meeting when "the kids" called so I called them back to say goodnight. Stbx took the opportunity to lay into me about everything in the email then tells me the kids are sleeping and I can't talk to them. (This is the reason I don't call btw)

Today the school called and said our daughter needed to be picked up. I called her on the phone and relayed the message. She then took her to the doctors this afternoon. It turns out she has an ear infection. She sent me a very long text about it and once again I sent the same undeliverable message.

When she got home she called me and explained the situation and went on to say how complicated this was and blah blah blah.... She now claims she is not going to sign the agreement and she is going to block my emails. I told her I didn't care what she did. She then started to swear at me and I hung up.

{Deep Breath}

I'm trying to get her to email only...not having much luck.

The agreement was signed by me and my lawyer and sent to her lawyer after all the revisions her lawyer asked for.

Everything is a battle and even with a written agreement the next 17 years will be interesting.

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Keep to e-mail and sign up to read notify....she can say she is not going to follow e-mails that fine. Just CWA by using this service.

It will be signed soon but realize that it will never be over!

Best of luck...I'm still waiting on mine to be signed...been delayed for 6 months!
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No one suggested Wizard yet?
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No one suggested Wizard yet?
It was discussed at a 4-way and deemed not necessary.
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hmmm, strange, who said so?

If text messages are not acceptable in you case and emails are notoriously bad/unreliable as I was told on this side some time ago, then Wizard is the solution: approved and accepted by the courts. I personally don't like it but that's irrelevant. One thing is good about it: once you sent stuff you cannot delete or change it. Your lawyer should know this.
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I use ReadNotify but only because I needed some mechanism to show me if ex was ignoring read emails, or not bothering reading them at all. I would much rather use Our Family Wizard because of the other options it offers. Ex ignores requests to use it and it's costly to sign up on my own. Hoping to eventually.

Stick to driving her to email.
The benefit of email...you can sit down craft an email, take a break from it...reword it, etc. And something you can do while alone.

Your ex is craving the immediate reaction of txt. Don't give it to her.
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Old 06-12-2013, 08:41 AM
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She didn't want to use it (no computer) and cost was an issue and since we settled I couldn't really push the issue.

Had it gone to court I would have requested it.
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She didn't want to use it (no computer) and cost was an issue and since we settled I couldn't really push the issue.

Had it gone to court I would have requested it.
Concerning "Our Family Wizard"...they have an app for most of the major mobile phone platforms (IPhone, Android, Blackberry). I get the "cost" aspect though, which is why I'm not on it, yet. However, if I add up the ReadNotify fees (which are small), and the times I've had to use registered mail when the hostile ex becomes unresponsive, then I have likely already paid my share of the OFW fee, for year. If we end up in court, I'll be requesting OFW.

The "I have no computer" argument, doesn't stand up with me. Internet and computers are free at a library, etc. Most people, who have a cell phone, have a "data plan" and Internet. This argument is especially annoying when it comes from a parent who has a cell phone, and is on Facebook, but will try to say they can't "communicate" via email and such, about their child.

I would do your best, to stay away from SMS text messaging, for parenting. If you have to use it, I would only use it for the "immediate" low-key communications. ex. "Should be there in 5 mins". "Dropped Billy's shoes off at school". And leave it at that.

If a "back and forth" exchange is required, or is being asked for by the other party, then simply say, I'll respond via email when I have the opportunity.
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I find it hilarious that she sent an email from her iPhone right away.

Obviously she has a data plan then so has constant access to email.

Ridiculous.
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I find it hilarious that she sent an email from her iPhone right away.

Obviously she has a data plan then so has constant access to email.

Ridiculous.
Very much so.
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