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Old 07-14-2012, 01:51 AM
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hello this is my first time
some info first married 15years
got divorce papers out of the blue
do not have a lawyer yet cant afford it
tried legal aid she quit as other party very
abusive and combative
i am sick from cancer stuff
i filed counterclaim
heres the thing he took control of
the house and my personal
belongings and refuses to give it to
me i am tired and trying to stay
sane
how long do i have to settle property
issues no kids thank god
any help would be good
thanks very much
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Old 07-14-2012, 02:20 AM
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do you still live with him? Are you safe?
do you have any money whatsoever? any relatives or close friends?

You are currently receiving cancer treatment? If so you can ask who the social worker is at that hospital and they should be able to help you if you need emergency assistance. If you are still in your home and you feel threatened call the police and/or go to a women's shelter where you will receive immediate assistance.

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Old 07-14-2012, 02:32 AM
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yez i am out yes got some help
whats upsetting is that he betrayed me
but now he keeps saying have to sign the
offer so he gets the house i am joint tenant
how long is it to settle property
issues they are rushing me too much
can i wait till i am well to start
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Old 07-14-2012, 02:35 AM
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countrygal: You are under tremendous stress at this time. You need to be in a safe place where you can regroup and get help making some decisions. If your health is a big issue right now then a lawyer can get an emergency order that will put you back into your home (if you have had to move out due to abuse). If you can't afford a lawyer social services will help you. There are also many charitable organizations that will help you out. You didn't provide much information in your post but your call for help. If you give us more information we can possibly point you in the right direction.
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Old 07-14-2012, 02:38 AM
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Thank you for posting back. You should work through the social worker at the hospital you are receiving treatment from. They can get all the medical documents together you may require to stay or "pause" the legal proceedings until you are well enough to represent yourself.

Are you currently using drugs or alcohol? Do you still live in the marital home? Do you have any money?
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i am so scared he is reading this how do i
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Old 07-14-2012, 02:43 AM
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Countrygal: Do not use a computer that he has access to. If you suspect he is accessing this site then go to an internet cafe or your public library and sign on with a new name.
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no never did do drugs or smoked
just cancer and radiation meds
wish i did drink wine but my drs said
it saved my life so
its amazing im alive
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ok i will not write till sat night
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Old 07-14-2012, 02:50 AM
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Your doctor/oncologist can be a great resource for you. Doctors can refer patients to many other professionals without all the red tape. I strongly encourage you to use this resource and access the social workers. If you had a bad legal aid lawyer you can get another, only this time do it with the assistance of the social worker. Start there and don't take on the world at once. One step at a time.
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