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Old 06-03-2015, 09:29 PM
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You might also "enlighten" her about current rulings regarding shared custody and offer:

This is 2015 and courts rightfully endorse 'maximum exposure' [or whatever it's called] .... Through the years our respective employment/employers may vary and we should be prepared to respond to these changes and offer support to one another so D4 has equal time with her parents.

Etc. I'm sure there are many excellent writers out there who can offer some other suggestions.

Carefully written you can most certainly get your "jabs" in but come off looking like a saint.
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Also .. shes still writing all this stuff in the comm. book despite my requests for the comm. book to be used for day to day stuff and email for issues such as these.

I only got my read-notify today from her opening my emails in late March asking for summer access.

All of her e-mails say "sent from SamSung mobile". Should I remind her that every Timmy's, every McDonald's,...hell the corner stores nowa-days etc has free wifi?
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You might also "enlighten" her about current rulings regarding shared custody and offer:

This is 2015 and courts rightfully endorse 'maximum exposure' [or whatever it's called] .... Through the years our respective employment/employers may vary and we should be prepared to respond to these changes and offer support to one another so D4 has equal time with her parents.

Etc. I'm sure there are many excellent writers out there who can offer some other suggestions.

Carefully written you can most certainly get your "jabs" in but come off looking like a saint.
Yep .. Rioe is amazing with words. GoodMom too. Others are too. I'll wait as long as I can tonight.

Also, she said she has never asked for anything on my time ... but in fact she asked for my New Years Eve (probably to say that I wanted to go out drinking instead). So .. yes, she has asked on special days.

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Also .. shes still writing all this stuff in the comm. book despite my requests for the comm. book to be used for day to day stuff and email for issues such as these.

I only got my read-notify today from her opening my emails in late March asking for summer access.

All of her e-mails say "sent from SamSung mobile". Should I remind her that every Timmy's, every McDonald's,...hell the corner stores nowa-days etc has free wifi?
She's have to be brain-dead to not realize that. I'm not computer smart and even I know that. There is a library and you can bet there is FREE INTERNET AT THE WOMENS CRISIS CENTRE.
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I also wouldn't use the phrase "I feel". Keep emotions out of it.
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I also wouldn't use the phrase "I feel". Keep emotions out of it.
AGREED!!

Rioe .... I see you!! lol
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I wonder if its a good idea to keep re-hashing the past??? Maybe say something like ..."we should work on a parenting plan that is acceptable for both of us so in the future there will a clear idea of the terms of the 50/50 unlike the past situation." Something along that line..I am sure that others will have a better way to word it.
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She's have to be brain-dead to not realize that. I'm not computer smart and even I know that. There is a library and you can bet there is FREE INTERNET AT THE WOMENS CRISIS CENTRE.
Okay..please don't jump on me ppl....I dont creep facebook.

But I was just curious if she's posting online so I just checked. Last post = May 10th. My summer access request was late March ... so she can go on FB but not e-mail I guess?
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Keep it short and simple. Dont give her any ammunition. You considered, realized three days is not worth it, disagreed in d4s best interests. Period. Dont rehash or repeat or point out etc. shes trying to rewrite history. Its too late. Hopefully on june 31 youll make some progress. Everything else is just showing she can engage you.

Eta: anyone can say theyre reasonable, it doesnt mean they are. Remember this is also the woman who cried abuse. Her lies didnt work before and they dont work now. She forgets about 90% of the "issues" are because shes an unreasonable person. The other 10% are because youre trying to respond. STOP POKING THE DRAGON!

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Keep it short and simple. Dont give her any ammunition. You considered, realized three days is not worth it, disagreed in d4s best interests. Period. Dont rehash or repeat or point out etc. shes trying to rewrite history. Its too late. Hopefully on june 31 youll make some progress. Everything else is just showing she can engage you.
Good point. Arrgh...hate this crap!
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