Fighting too long. How can you tell if you are in the right?

[resourceful]

Every divorced or separated woman I talk to seems to have a good reason for putting down her former husband as a father, and for believing she is entitled to more money, and that he doesn't make good use of the access he has, is constantly disappointing the child, or isn't a good influence, so if anything he should have less visitation with her children.

Everyman I talk to says his wife has a sense of entitlement to all his money, and often begrudges his right to be a father.

Of course unethical lawyers only add to the conflict. But still, who is right?

[HammerDad]

Both sexes are equally stupid and guilty in this scenario. IMO, it isn't a gender matter, it is a stupid-people-with-to-much-go-to-let-go-of-the-emotion matter.

[resourceful]

"Too much to let go" is another way of saying there's a lot at stake. Men tend to share many of the same issues with custody, access, unfair child support, and unfair alimony. Despite everything at stake should they all just stop being "stupid people with too much to let go" and just give up the fight for men's rights? What about women's rights groups? Should they all just give up the fight against abuse, deadbeat dads, and not fight for their children? These groups are diametrically opposed to each other. One is right and one is wrong. Can you really ask them to "get over it and play nice"? Is that a little like asking two parents to compromise on the religion of their children when one is a satanist and the other is a Christian? You can't be half satanist. Or what about moving the children far away? You can't move "halfway" to Australia from Canada. Halfway is dead in the middle of the ocean. Of course choosing an overly aggressive divorce lawyer doesn't help either. But does avoiding the fact that there's no middle ground just leave room for the compromising party to keep giving in until they begin feeling abused?

[blinkandimgone]

You know, if you want to make posts just to trash a particular lawyer perhaps you should just be upfront about it instead of attenpting to disguise your posts as something else? Doesn't lend a lot to your credibility when you're hiding your true motivation for posting here.

Almost every post you've ever made on this forum has been for the same purpose. Perhaps it's time to give up your charade?

[resourceful]

I would be the last to say I don't have an issue with that particularly outrageous lawyer. I certainly wouldn't be the only one. Like most lay people I can't comment about ALL bad divorce lawyers because I haven't seen them, but regardless if any of us doesn't have experience with EVERY lawyer, is it wrong to raise attention to the bad behavior of one lawyer when we see it? And isn't it useful to the overall discussion to raise a couple of important points about other issues along the way?