False alligations, stressed, help!!!!

[TRG2010]

Originally Posted by tugofwar

Don't allow him to treat you like a door mat!!!! He just doesn't know what to do with you if you start speaking up. Just stay focused on your child, schedule and routine, offer things around that routine and if he can't deal with it or is making it hard, tell your lawyer.
Children need routine and consistency. It's a proven fact. Keep that and state that to him and if he demands anything more talk to your lawyer.

Its funny you say that, I dont even know how I am doing that and how to stop him from treating me like a door mat. I am so afraid to do anything. I am afraid that I might do something wrong and I will get in trouble by the courts. True about speaking up, he doesnt like that. he has said in our marraige "yuou just wont submit to your husband will you". I am trying to please him, and please the courts, please my daughter...... please, someone please me. lol.
I do stick by the routine and consistancy thing, that I have not veered from. Thank you. I think I will go to bed now.. Baby still nurses all night, every 2 hours or so...sweet ting... love her so much :'( Goodnight I'll be back tomorrow if there is more advice/comments. Thank you all for making my first post pleasant.

[TRG2010]

Talked to my Lawyer and We are asking him for his medical records as well and I am going to get reference letters stating how good of a mom I am. Anyone have ideas as to who I can ask besides friends and family? His actions are just a ploy to try to make me look bad.

[Mess]

The courts can't accept hearsay evidence. Unless someone was in your home pretty much daily, observing you with the child, then they can't say what kind of mother you are.

Just an example, say you were on the phone with your sister every day, chatting and saying "I did this, and then that with the baby...". All your sister can swear is that you said things on the phone. The courts won't accept anything like that.

[TRG2010]

Originally Posted by Mess

The courts can't accept hearsay evidence. Unless someone was in your home pretty much daily, observing you with the child, then they can't say what kind of mother you are.

Just an example, say you were on the phone with your sister every day, chatting and saying "I did this, and then that with the baby...". All your sister can swear is that you said things on the phone. The courts won't accept anything like that.

Sorry Mess - I know that. that goes without saying. This is what I have so far - I am looking for brainstroming ideas!! Perhaps someone has been in the same situation and can help me maybe remember other people I have forgotten. I have my previous landloard of 8 years, saw him quite often, he can be a character witness, and say what he saw and knows about me as a parent, thats not hearsay. My counsellor, who I see with my Baby, my ex-sister-in-law whom I've known for 24 years, an old roomate who saw me with my eldest, a co-worker who is a child & youth worker, my eldests Dad, the staff at the womans shelter I was in for 10 weeks and 2 long time friends. I was hoping for some ideas of who else I could get without making a list.