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Old 04-26-2013, 02:54 PM
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Did you have your tape recorder running?

If she keys the car or vandalizes anything else, take pictures, call the cops and make a report.

It is perfectly legitimate for you to have your own separate place in the house during an in-home separation.

Keep your tape recorder with you and on tonight. Stay away from her.

Its too bad there's not a place you can be in the house that she can't have an excuse not to bug you. Did you set up times that she can use the washer/dryer? If so, she should be following that schedule....there's really no excuse for her not to be allowing you private space within the home.
Yes my recorder was and is still running.

There is no laundry schedule. My room is not locked when I'm not home and I told her she could do it later when I leave and I'm not working.

She was very proud when she said she would go get her key. Then when it didn't work like two weeks ago she was not pleased.
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Old 04-26-2013, 03:06 PM
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Ignore her.

Her "dirty laundry" is none of your concern - pun intended LOL

Hope you can get your own place soon.

Hang in there!
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Maybe you need to send her daily/weekly times that she can come and use the machine. Ie:

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Dear Fruitloop:

As you know, we are both in the middle of a difficult in-home separation and both require privacy inside the home until we have an agreement to vacate. You have the private use of XX room and I have the private use of XX room.

Since the laundry facilities are unfortunately in my part of the house, I am letting you know that you may use the machines there on the following days at the following times. (schedule) At all other times, I ask that you refrain from continuing your attempts to access my private area. If you have relevant issues regarding the children, you are always free to email me.

The other alternative is that you may vacate the XX room that you now occupy and I will switch you for the XX room with the laundry facilities.

We both have a right to peace and privacy within our home until we are legally able to make new arrangements. I will continue to respect your privacy and ask that you do the same for mine.

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Keep the tapes, date them...and keep any email responses. You might need them.

(you kind of have to laugh at her key not working...lol)

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Maybe you need to send her daily/weekly times that she can come and use the machine. Ie:

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Dear Fruitloop:

As you know, we are both in the middle of a difficult in-home separation and both require privacy inside the home until we have an agreement to vacate. You have the private use of XX room and I have the private use of XX room.

Since the laundry facilities are unfortunately in my part of the house, I am letting you know that you may use the machines there on the following days at the following times. (schedule) At all other times, I ask that you refrain from continuing your attempts to access my private area. If you have relevant issues regarding the children, you are always free to email me.

The other alternative is that you may vacate the XX room that you now occupy and I will switch you for the XX room with the laundry facilities.

We both have a right to peace and privacy within our home until we are legally able to make new arrangements. I will continue to respect your privacy and ask that you do the same.

***

Keep the tapes, date them...and keep any email responses. You might need them.
Very good idea.

I will send something along that line now.

She for some odd reason very loudly announced to me that she was leaving for the weekend. Her weekend with the kids.

Not sure why I would care.
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Old 04-26-2013, 03:53 PM
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I went out of the room and my STBX broke the handle right off the door.

I need to take pictures and send it to my lawyer. The door still locks but on the other side all there is a post.

So looks like I need to buy another lock.
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hope things improve for you FB

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I hope the same for you FB... that must be stressful. Stay safe.
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hope things improve for you FB
Less than 2 weeks until my motion. It's been a long 6 months since the case conference
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/popcorn

Crazy is as crazy does man...

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