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Old 02-29-2016, 07:54 PM
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No, he signed that he chose of his own will to not seek Independent Legal advice. Also we are quite amicable and I would never move out until he found work. We actually discussed that already and he told me and agreed it might be good to have space and if I wanted it, it was ok. He sees his therapist Wed and will be asking the doctor his thoughts on this idea we have. I see my therapist Thurs so will also ask her. We are actually two very grounded people and we try not to let the emotions take over as we want to be good to each other and logical.

I do not think it is that he does not find me attractive at all. But I think when that emotional closeness is not there and with the damage we have in the marriage, those sexual feelings do not get spurned given the issues.
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Old 02-29-2016, 08:24 PM
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He legally signed off ILA? You had a lawyer at the time and I'm sure your lawyer covered that contingency correct?

Well you can spend all the time/money on therapists you want. Seems like you are in a perpetual state of seeking answers and trying to get things 'picture perfect' to fit in with your vision of the future.

You haven't been married very long so not much invested there.
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Old 02-29-2016, 08:30 PM
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Yes he signed off on that. (ILA). Like I said my lawyer was very thorough and it took almost a year just to have the whole process done.

Well I am very confused right now as is the normal feeling I think. No one wants their marriage whether 5 years or 25 years to end. No one hopes for this. So I am just figuring out if I am putting the bar too high, or if anyone else has had a similar situation like me to offer insight and whether what resulted was positive or negative.
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Old 02-29-2016, 11:19 PM
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Are you happy?

If the answer is no then you need to make the decision that will give you a chance at being happy.
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