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Old 01-21-2011, 02:18 PM
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Ok, I've had a few questions lately from some posters on here, and friends in RL about depression. I know it's a taboo subject, but it shouldn't be.

I'm, not afraid to admit that I am suffering from depression. I'm taking medication for it (Cymbalta) and I am finding it to be a miracle drug! I fought not taking one for about 6 months, but after our OCL disclosure in October I finally admitted to myself that things were not going to get any better until I got better.

I've been on 2 others (effexor and celexa) and they worked too. But I quit both of those after about 6 months, when I felt better. I was on low doses of both, and there were very few withdrawal symptoms.

Honestly, if you are feeling down (and we all probably do...divorce is crappy), I urge you to talk to your doctor. My depression is "situational". My doctor fully expects that I won't need this medication in another year, when the divorce situation is under control. You may be in the same boat. My depression held me back from moving forward. Please don't let it do that to you too.

Compared to 3 months ago, today my life is AMAZING! Most of the issues are resolved, I'm productive at work again and I've started dating. Now that I've burst the depression bubble, I am my old (beloved) self again!
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Fantastic post! Also remember that there are support groups out there, for depression And often, another helpful thing is as simple as forcing yourself outside for a half-hour walk, a trip to the grocery store, anything with human interaction!
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Thanks. We all need a little help sometimes. It doesn't make you weak.

The strongest people I know (myself included ) know how to ASK for that help. You aren't doing yourself (or your kids) any favours by trying to "tough it out". I should know.
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I always said that the proper combination and dosage of beer, antidepressant/anti-anxiety drugs and cognitive behavior therapy can make wonders.
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Great post - and some fantastic comments as well (about therapy, exercise, etc..). I'd also be one to throw my hat in the ring that I've needed medication in the past as well. Whatever gets you through this incredibly annoying process lol
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I also applaud you on your post billiechic. I would also like to add that a peripheral effect of several anti-depressants is an anti-anxiety effect. My separation brought on both terrible depression and anxiety as well as intense insomnia. Due to the insomnia, I was prescribed remeron which is basically an A/D and sleeping pill rolled into one. My depression and anxiety are both managable now and I don't plan on staying on the meds long term...they are just helping me get through this period of my life.
If you are going through depression and/or anxiety, please talk to your doctor. If the anxiety is really bad, make sure you mention to your Dr that you don't want any A/D's that have a stimulant effect. For example, the apparent latest and greatest A/D is the SSRI Cipralex but I tried it before remeron and my anxiety went through the roof. On furthur research, I discovered it has a stimulant effect which may be fine for somebody with depression alone but not for someone with anxiety also.
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As an aside, what did you do for insomnia? I suffer from it and a snoring spouse...
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Remeron actually has an anti-histamine effect. It is often prescribed for depression with insomnia. It's like having a benadryl.
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Cipralex..that's what I was on last year (not Celexa). Yes, it had the same effect on me. That's the one that caused the heart palpitations. They weren't bothersome, I just felt my heart racing when it shouldn't have been. Rather, I think when I went off it my anxiety level went through the roof, as it was no longer controlled. That one also made me too relaxed.

Just remember that every medication works differently in each person. What works for me may not work for you. Sometimes you have to try a few. I tried 3, my ex tried about 5 different ones (hence the confusion about which ones I took).

I had to share this, even if it helps just one person who needs it. Very few people would talk to me about depression until I admitted that I had it. Then people came out of the woodwork. You aren't alone.
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Insomnia..that's the reason I stopped taking the Cipralex.

I had a bit with this one (Cymbalta) but doc gave me a few non-addictive sleeping pills for when it was bad. I've only taken 3 half pills and I'm sleeping much better now. Don't need anything as long as I don't have a 4 year old kicking machine in my bed.

Cymbalta is also used for diabetic neuropathy (nerve pain) so it's had the added benefit of taking away the slight numbness in my hands I was feeling as a result of my MS.
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