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Old 01-20-2014, 06:31 PM
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Rainman, I have to agree with all above, giving your lawyer that kind of go ahead is very naive. Of course your lawyer will promise you the moon, he/she is in business to make a good living same as anyone else.
Even if this money did win you your case, what happens say 5-10 years down the line if you and new wife split up? She'll be wanting the money back in some way ... Karma or call it whatever you like.
If your case against ex wife is solid, you don't really need that kind of cash anyway.
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Old 01-20-2014, 06:40 PM
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Well personally I would avoid involving the new partner in any old battle.
It's no different from others that are now in "new relationships", even though there is unfinished business with their ex.....the "new partner" now involved in one way or another

The OP just happens to have a "new partner" that is willing to fund his fight for justice at any cost.
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Old 01-20-2014, 06:57 PM
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Rainman:

I am confused by some of your information. I thought you had access already but now you say you want to use current wife's money for access and to fight SS? Did you lose access or are you looking to increase your access?

In some of your previous posts you mentioned that you were doing very well for yourself financially. I believe one of your posts mentioned working 70 hrs a week. Unless you are a minimum wage earner I don't see why you would need to take money from your current spouse to fight the ex wife?
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Old 01-20-2014, 07:03 PM
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Rainman didn't say he was taking the money from his new partner.....his original post reads like this...

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Also, we are using 30 k to legally finance my fight for access to my child and to fight SS.
No different from a low earner in a household, being carried by a higher earner in a household. For a example a paralegal that married a Lawyer
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Old 01-20-2014, 07:11 PM
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Your interpretation is quite interesting.

I guess when my ex used my money it was me supporting the lower income earner?

Hilarious - never thought of it that way.
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I interpreted that differently again.

He's saying that his current wife's money has never been a factor in SS, etc., and is wondering if that will continue to be so as she has inherited money.

It seems as though this new found money will be used to try and reduce SS and gain access to children.

So, for the purposes of fighting SS and gaining access he (and I assume current wife) considers this "their money". For the purposes of determining SS/Child support he doesn't want it to be considered "their money".

Your wife's inheritance won't be a CS factor. SS, I don't know.

Please don't tell a lawyer that you're willing to pay whatever it takes to get justice served. That would not be a good financial move on your part.
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I'll have to read the OP's story. I thought when he first arrived here he wanted to know if after 8 years his ex could suddenly ask for SS. Everyone told him no way she could get it now. I've never seen him say that he actually has had to pay any SS.
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Probably all of the above.
Rainman's wife has new found money. They don't want ex wife to know about it while they squander it on lawyers?
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I'll have to read the OP's story. I thought when he first arrived here he wanted to know if after 8 years his ex could suddenly ask for SS. Everyone told him no way she could get it now. I've never seen him say that he actually has had to pay any SS.
Exactly! But he's willing to spend 30k of "their" money to have lawyers interview witnesses etc. From his old posts he indicates that he and his lawyer felt his ex sat back and waited for him to make more money before she pounced on him for SS That doesn't say much for the legal advice he is relying upon right now. Maybe he should spend 300.00 for a consult with a new lawyer. You know - walk before you run?
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Exactly! But he's willing to spend 30k of "their" money to have lawyers interview witnesses etc. From his old posts he indicates that he and his lawyer felt his ex sat back and waited for him to make more money before she pounced on him for SS That doesn't say much for the legal advice he is relying upon right now. Maybe he should spend 300.00 for a consult with a new lawyer. You know - walk before you run?
That would be money well spent. Medical opinions are worthy of a second go at another specialist. Legal opinions should be as well.

I can only imagine him in the hands of my ex's lawyer. Jeezus, the lawyer would put the down payment on his Cayman Islands condo as rainman uttered the words "we don't care how much it costs....".
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