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Old 06-28-2017, 10:50 AM
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So, in calculating the amount ex actually sent in 2016 vs what he was supposed to pay for child support, there is an almost $3,000 arrears from when we switched over to the new amount. Ex says he paid it but refuses to provide proof. I have provided every transfer for 2016 and know the amount he paid is not what our agreement says it should be.

Is it a motion that is filed if he refuses to pay?

Now some will say is it worth the $3,000? but I have already taken lower amounts of SS and agreed to a lower income to be used to calculate CS to try to stay out of court in the past. Ex, regardless of his high income, will nickel and dime everything. He is technically in arrears for CS and will likely fuss again this year about providing his proper taxes to adjust CS payment. Understandably, he doesn't want me to have knowledge of his practice.

Which brings me to the next thing. Youngest daughter is a competitive dancer. She may well end up dancing as a career. Her dance costs including costumes, travelling fees, classes, footwear, etc. cost well over $6,000 (even with her $700 scholarship for this year). Ex has it written into our agreement that he will not pay for costumes (or school uniforms) which I agreed to but now also says he pays too much child support and refuses to pay for anything for dance including the classes.

Youngest child support is $1750 monthly now. Do you think it is unreasonable that dance is extracurricular? Our current ratio would be 85%/15% as ex makes more than $400,000 now. His portion of dance would be approximately $5,300.

What do you think? I am trying to figure out what is reasonable to ask for if we have to go to court to have his proper taxes disclosed (last year he tried to hide his whole corp from me).

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Old 06-28-2017, 11:59 AM
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Go through FRO. I never understand why people do not do this automatically. If you go through FRO you simply fill out some forms showing what he owes and he does the same. Let him nickle and dime with FRO and see how far that gets him.
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Wow $1750 is a lot of support. Do you work? Sorry but that's a lot of support. Maybe your ex is feeling you should be able to cover the dance?
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Beach she was married to (and put him through years of university) to a high-earning doctor. 1750 is "chump change" for someone in his income bracket. Had he been a few years longer in his career she would be looking at 10K and upwards. I hope she has a review clearly stated in the divorce document.
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Wow $1750 is a lot of support. Do you work? Sorry but that's a lot of support. Maybe your ex is feeling you should be able to cover the dance?
I know Beach but to be honest, I am sick of hearing about how much it is.

When we separated, I was at a financial disadvantage. I worked while he was in school and stayed home during years of his paid residency. I had been out of the work force for four years. When trying to stay out of court, I agreed to 1/3 of what my spousal would be for a set amount of time regardless of the increase in his income. So, if he becomes disabled, he still pays. If he makes a million a year, he still just pays $3500 in spousal for five more years and then it ends. If we went by SS guidelines, he would be paying around $9,000. I thought I was being smart to stay out of court for spousal as he would have to pay so much child support.

Last year ex argued about his net corporate income last year and I then agreed to $500 less a month ($6,000 a year) in child support to again stay out of court.

And yes, I work. I work full time. The average Early Childhood Educator makes $20 an hour. I had graduated before we even got married. I worked while he was in university and med school. I supported our little family. I feel like I invested in a business except that business is now in his head as a specialist degree.

So many parents feel spousal is killing them. He makes $450,000+ a year. Even with supports added, I make $85,000 total. Isn't it supposed to equal out out the households a little? Ex tried to hide his corporation from me to pay minimal child support. Spousal is fixed so it wouldn't have changed anything. He was trying to pay less for his children.

There is more but who really cares? Ex only cares about money. People are blinded by his title and bank account while he uses charm and manipulation to get out of paying.

You're right Beach, I should just take less than he should pay. My children don't deserve what the law says is proper child support. He should be allowed to push and push to reduce whatever he can. He needs more money in his pocket.

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S and T - I hope you never agree again to less CS. If you took him to court he would be ordered to pay. Same goes for SS. People forget that SS is fully taxable. You put him through school and are legally entitled to share in the fruits of "both" of your labor. 9k would have been a starting point for someone who is a partner in a clinic.
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Wow $1750 is a lot of support. Do you work? Sorry but that's a lot of support. Maybe your ex is feeling you should be able to cover the dance?
Nearly $2,000/month plus her income working on the schoolboard? WOW! It's like winning a Cash4Life scratch ticket. Lucky her.
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Nearly $2,000/month plus her income working on the schoolboard? WOW! It's like winning a Cash4Life scratch ticket. Lucky her.


$2000 a month is nothing compared to what her ex brings home because she supported him through his schooling... if they were still together she would be benefiting from the $30k he brings home a month. Not to mention there is an end date so while her income is going to decrease in the coming years his will continue to increase


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$2000 a month is nothing compared to what her ex brings home because she supported him through his schooling... if they were still together she would be benefiting from the $30k he brings home a month. Not to mention there is an end date so while her income is going to decrease in the coming years his will continue to increase


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Oh yes, I'm cognizant of all that. I didn't mean anything by it .. except that I'd LOVE to have an extra almost $2,000/month. Man that would be sweet.

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.... yeah don't forget all those exotic luxury trips/cruises for medical conventions.
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