Legal Aid said no & a lawyer says i dont have enough money

[blindsided]

Wow am i in a pickle!.

Well i went to legal aid yesterday,they said my income is ok to get legal aid but because i own house dont look good. She said i have a lot of issues and that she didnt think that legal aid would do good for me,because they are limited on what they would or could do, and that if i went to the financail office for legal aid they would decide,but that being said,she said if they would take me, they would put a lien on the house. So she told me to go see a lawyer, so i did he felt bad but said that i dont have the money to get a lawyer.

He suggested i go to chapters and buy a seperation agreement kit, so off i go to chapters and of course must be that time of year all 8 or so chapters in ottawa are sold out.

Things only get worse my cell gets cut off because ex didnt pay cell,which he is tied to a 3 year contract, he gets another one instead of paying bill. I call him once to tell him to cancel visa, ya he puts balance on line of credit and charges 200 to it. I phoned to make sure im not responsable for it,(visa) and im not anyway, he changed his cell number again, oh and didnt put any money in for mortage.

What can i do im living tight, but dont want to lose house, we still need somewhere to live, i would be paying more to rent.

Any suggestions, thanks

[FL_Needs_To_Change]

Void any details on the relationship, it is hard to offer advice.
Were you Cl or legally married, and for how long, and are there any children involved?

[blindsided]

Originally Posted by FL_Needs_To_Change

Void any details on the relationship, it is hard to offer advice.
Were you Cl or legally married, and for how long, and are there any children involved?

We were married 14 years, living together for22 years have 2 boys 18 year old goes to college, 19 years old works parttime, both live at home with me.

[littleman]

is it amicable (as much as that can be)? or animosity going back and forth? issues with property split, custody? if none of those apply self represent.......

[blindsided]

Originally Posted by littleman

is it amicable (as much as that can be)? or animosity going back and forth? issues with property split, custody? if none of those apply self represent.......

Funny you should ask, thats the way he said he wanted to be (amicable) but will not talk to me at all tried talking to him the other week,then he changed his phone number, animosity to him,cause he left for another woman co-worker,which is still with her husband.

As to property split he said when he left he would sign it to me just to leave him alone,sad thing is i put 30 thousand down on house in 07 from a private ins buy out,now on cpp disability only recieving 500. a month im forced to get some kind of training, so i can hopfuly find some work,that i can handle doing so i can survive.

So he was to put money in for mortage last week he didnt so now it looks like me and my boys are on our own now.

Things dont look good i will have mortage utils and oh ya the line of credit i can only afford to pay the intrest on it. I really got screwed all round.

Wish there was a lawyer that would do pro bono in Ottawa.

[logicalvelocity]

To avoid, a lien on your home from legal aid or a line a credit secured against you home to pay for independant Lawyer -- Why not go self rep if the circumstances cannot be resolved in an amicable fashion.

[littleman]

blindsided.........I understand the hurt and household turmoil you are going through but as LV stated self represent..........if you have the strength and the determination it honestly can be accomplished. You will need to excercise an over abundance of patience and the best I have ever heard is smile & nod.......meaning do not give in to any confrontation (whereas regretful things can and will be said in the heat of an argument-these regretful things can be brought up to a judge.....best wayt o communicate is through written sources emails, etc)
My personal opinion would be to tackle the marriage breakdown then custody (if its an issue) after that.........
for the property you could sell it or rent out a room.....he left the property to you but until he signs it over you cannot put it up for sale ( you need his written consent if his name is on mortgage or the deed)...keep us up to date

[blindsided]

Can anyone help point me in the right direction,on where to start or what to do,to self rep?

Need to get things going before i lose everything.
thanks

[logicalvelocity]

This might be a good way to start. A good read is the Family Law Rules with respect to court processes and procedures. The government is actually encouraging self reps as summarizing guides can be found here:

Ministry of the Attorney General - A Guide to Family Procedures in the Superior Court of Justice


Relevant and associated Family Court forms can be found here:

Family Law Rules Forms — Ontario Court Services


lv

[Kimberley]

I am self-rep and I can tell you there is quite a bit of information available online. With respect to the forms in LV's 2nd link - choose the word document forms (if you have the option) as these are fillable forms and allow you to submit clear & neat documents.