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Old 05-09-2010, 09:40 PM
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I certainly hope not, unless he/she is a bio parent of the animal. Ha Ha Ha Ha.

Pet support? PET SUPPORT???

How insanely laughable. I would be embarassed to even think of asking for pet support. Have a little pride, please.
I believe the term 'pet support' was used jokingly. I'm not asking or expecting 'support payments' every month as you're suggesting. The thought was that he'd contribute to major vet expenses incurred when his cat gets sick or hurt or maintain some kind of insurance coverage to pay it rather than constantly out of my pocket. He bought the cat, I bought mine, he's paid his cat's expenses up till we separated. I've spent $1100 out of pocket for three trips to the vet in the last three weeks for his cat. That's $1100 I don't have to spend on my children now. Considering he makes much more than I do, $1100 - plus whatever the rest of the cost is until he's well again - is quite a bit for me.

I wouldn't pay my other friends' vet bills when looking after their pets, why is it assumed to be ok that I should pay his now that we're just friends?
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Old 05-09-2010, 10:31 PM
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Then give him back his cat, or find another home for it.

That you would even consider at ALL the idea that the court force him (because that's utimately the leverage you have to get him to pay) is absolutely laughable.

I don't want my tax dollars pissed away because people are asking the courts to resolve their vet bills for them.

It's absolutely dumbfounding.
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Old 05-09-2010, 10:35 PM
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Nobody said anything about going to court over it, in fact, I specifically said I had no intention of going to court over it. Why would I need 'leverage'?
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Old 05-09-2010, 10:47 PM
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Well in that case, yes it is possible to get it written into your separation agreement, but obviously, only if he agrees.

If he doesn't agree, then you're only recourse to is to accept paying for it, or going to court. Since you have no intention of going to court, then it's not us you should asking about the separation agreement, it's your ex.

As for nobody saying anything about going to court, rszalai cited a court case, and you mentioned Section 7 expenses.

Again, if you not going to court, then then you will only get it into a separation agreement with his agreement (needless to say) or by threatening to go to court.

So ask him to pay. If he says no, will you just accept it?
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Old 05-09-2010, 11:04 PM
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If he doesn't agree, then you're only recourse to is to accept paying for it, or going to court. Since you have no intention of going to court, then it's not us you should asking about the separation agreement, it's your ex.
I realize, of course, it's him I need to talk to speak with about it. My question was simply if it was something we agreed on would it be something that should be in the separation agreement.

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As for nobody saying anything about going to court, rszalai cited a court case, and you mentioned Section 7 expenses.
I guess I didn't realize divorced = death of humour. I guess I've been doing it wrong.

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Again, if you not going to court, then then you will only get it into a separation agreement with his agreement (needless to say) or by threatening to go to court.
I don't believe in 'threatening' people for anything, most certainly not the father of my children for whatever reason.

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So ask him to pay. If he says no, will you just accept it?
Yes, but if he agrees I'd like it in writing somewhere - whether in the separation agreement or somewhere else. Not because I'd want to threaten him with going to court or something equally ridiculous, he just seems to remember and respect things better when they're in writing.

I've been going over options a lot since the vet bills starting adding up and I think I'm going to try going the pet insurance route which covers pretty much everything aside from regular checkups which would be a lot less then emergency vet costs when they get hurt or injured. He'll be more likely to go for it if it costs less which it would if we insured them all. If he doesn't want to do that I have my own life insurance policy that I can cancel to pay the difference.
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Old 05-09-2010, 11:24 PM
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I realize, of course, it's him I need to talk to speak with about it. My question was simply if it was something we agreed on would it be something that should be in the separation agreement.

You can put whatever you want in a separation agreement. You can each promise not to visit strip clubs, pay vet bills, or walk away from your mortgage. As long as you abide the agreement, who cares. What you're really asking is whether it's enforceable if one party renegs. And that's why you need leverage.



I guess I didn't realize divorced = death of humour. I guess I've been doing it wrong.

Sorry I missed the subtle humour in the term pet support. I did see the humour in asking for it as you will see if you re-read the HA HA HA's in one of my posts above.

I don't believe in 'threatening' people for anything, most certainly not the father of my children for whatever reason.



Yes, but if he agrees I'd like it in writing somewhere - whether in the separation agreement or somewhere else. Not because I'd want to threaten him with going to court or something equally ridiculous, he just seems to remember and respect things better when they're in writing.

Well, as said above, if he abides by it, and agrees, put it in the separation agreement.

I've been going over options a lot since the vet bills starting adding up and I think I'm going to try going the pet insurance route which covers pretty much everything aside from regular checkups which would be a lot less then emergency vet costs when they get hurt or injured. He'll be more likely to go for it if it costs less which it would if we insured them all. If he doesn't want to do that I have my own life insurance policy that I can cancel to pay the difference.
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Old 05-10-2010, 08:23 AM
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Oh now there's one I hadn't thought of......
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