Claiming no receipts WTF!

[neverending]

Just wondering if anyone can shed some light... I have handed over each and every receipt from child care and section 7 expenses to my ex. We have our court date in mid February, and now he is claiming that I never provided receipts for anything...
What do I do?
We have been separated almost 5 years, and he has never paid ANY child care or other expenses for our 2 children (which is why we arfe returning back to court - for a 2nd time. Court order states he needs to contribute, but he doesn't)
Anyway just looking for advice... Thanks

[Berner_Faith]

I hope you kept copies of all those receipts.

[neverending]

I have each and every one in a receipt folder i keep ... but I guess I am worried about him saying I didnt give them to him, how in the world will i prove i did?

[NBDad]

Don't hand ANYTHING over. Always make sure you use a trackable method.
If you DO hand stuff over like that, ALWAYS followup with a quick email essentially stating...

"Just a followup regarding the receipts I handed you for XYZ, please let me know if you have any questions".

That protects you, since if he tries to claim he didn't get the receipt, you simply haul out the email and ask the obvious question of...why didn't you bring it up when I sent the followup then?

Personally I would recommend you invest in a cheap multifunction printer and SCAN the things and email them over as attachments. That way you can print out the email showing the date/time stamp. Call the attachments by the name of the expense , the date they are for and the amount (ie. Childcare-01012012-100.00)

[tiredofthisnow]

I picked up a printer/fax/scanner for $89 and I scan everything so I have records. I am sure you can find them even cheaper now

[neverending]

Originally Posted by NBDad

Don't hand ANYTHING over. Always make sure you use a trackable method.
If you DO hand stuff over like that, ALWAYS followup with a quick email essentially stating...

"Just a followup regarding the receipts I handed you for XYZ, please let me know if you have any questions".

That protects you, since if he tries to claim he didn't get the receipt, you simply haul out the email and ask the obvious question of...why didn't you bring it up when I sent the followup then?

Personally I would recommend you invest in a cheap multifunction printer and SCAN the things and email them over as attachments. That way you can print out the email showing the date/time stamp. Call the attachments by the name of the expense , the date they are for and the amount (ie. Childcare-01012012-100.00)

I have emailed him "follow ups" on other items, and he started crying "harrassment"... so I was concerened that I was doing something I shouldn't have been - and so I stopped. I suppose using a courier service to send reciepts may be the best option.

[torontonian]

The issue I have with courier (rather than e-mail labelled attachment) is that you can prove an envelope was delivered, but not what was inside....
Doesn't help the OP though.

[scarycheri]

Three letters.....FRO

My ex never liked paying for any section 7 expenses. Once I registered with FRO he has no choice. If you have an agreement or court order that states he is to pay then register. It saves going to court

[NBDad]

It's not harassment, it's called "keeping him informed".
It's legit communication regarding the children, as long as you aren't doing it like 10 times a day...

[neverending]

Originally Posted by NBDad

It's not harassment, it's called "keeping him informed".
It's legit communication regarding the children, as long as you aren't doing it like 10 times a day...

the last communication we had where he said I was "harrassing" him was this....
He was to in form me when he contacted FRO regarding his current employment. I was told (through someone who knows him) that he was infact employed, however FRO hadn't been notified. So I contacted FRO to inform them and possibly have FRO contact him to see what was up.
So once I discovered he was infact employed, I text msgd him asking if he had contacted FRO to in form them of his employment. He did not reply. So each day at around 10a.m I would send him a text just saying "I was just wondering if you have infact contacted FRO and informed them of your current employment" - I did this for 3 days.... until yesterday when finally replied telling me Yes he had contacted FRO and also informed them of my harrassing him...
I was following up - becuz he said he would inform me, and didn't.