Child Support Payment

[dsschimp]

Hi, I'm in a situation where I have a child with a girl friend I dated 7 years ago. I've been paying child support to her since 2003. I'm currently happily married to another woman and we are about to have a baby together. I want to know what happens once we have the baby. Do I keep paying the same child support amount to my x or will the payments change after having the baby with my wife? Any info is appreciated.

Thank you,

Mike

[Foredeck]

Unfortunatly, the payment remains the same. The only way you can pay differently then the table amounts is if the custody arrangement changes. If you had shared custody, you'd pay a lot less.

Or, you could negotiate with her. If she agrees to it, you could pay less, but there is no legal reason for her to agree to less then the table amount.

[dsschimp]

Thanks for the response. I was afraid to hear that but I guess I'll have to talk to her and her child services lady to see if they will agree to a less amount.

[pursuingfairness]

You should not have another child if you will be taking away from the one you already have.

Having a second child is a choice.

[billiechic]

Originally Posted by pursuingfairness

You should not have another child if you will be taking away from the one you already have.

Having a second child is a choice.

While that may be true, that's a very harsh thing to say to someone looking forward to having another child. This father has been paying CS all along!

[pursuingfairness]

People who have children should not make decisions with the expectation or desire to ask for the mother of the first child to make sacrifices for the sake of another child coming along in a new relationship.

Its time for parents to be parents, adults - men to be fathers and women to be mothers.

I know from my own experience that it hurts children when support is reduced or not paid.

It is the duty of the parent to pay, so no cookie or award there. There is a special place in hell for those who do not pay child support

[firstouting]

I know from my own experience that it hurts children when support is reduced or not paid.

It is the duty of the parent to pay, so no cookie or award there. There is a special place in hell for those who do not pay child support

It should be the duty of both parents to actually work to be financially capable of providing for the child or children. But the custodial parent is never legally obligated are they?

Pursuit of fairness would or should have the same expectation of being financially capable of providing for their child. But the guy has married and has a child that will not get the same financial considerations that the first child receives. How is that a pursuit of fairness? The mother can argue that if she remarries the new husband and his income is not to be part of any calculations as to household income...and legally it is not...yet if that marriages fails...the step father can be legally liable as suddenly his income is financially liable for the support of the child that when married...was not.

How is that a pursuit of fairness....The statistics for single custodial fathers working full time is markedly different than single custodial mothers who are often found working part time...

Pursuit of fairness would suggest looking at all income streams in a household and expecting both parties to be working full time to contribute to the financial requirements of the children.

Cs is not needed for someone who is actually working. It is just a tool for those to lazy to actually do for themselves.

Custodial or non custodial both need homes for the children...they both need clothes to cloth the child..and finacial resources to provide for the children.

I look at how the children are affected in both households...i suggest your only interest is what is going on in your own home. Pursuit of self interest and not pursuit of fairness.

[dadtotheend]

Here we go again. Alllllll aboard!

[billiechic]

And the point in jumpng down this guys throat was what? To harp on someone who is NOT a deadbeat but just asked a question? Did he SAY he was not willing to pay? HE HAS BEEN PAYING ALL ALONG!

Maybe the guy didn't know and wanted to save a few bucks and ask here instead of calling his lawyer. Then maybe he can afford to get a Christmas gift for BOTH his kids.

Sheesh! Merry Christmas to you guys!

[Kimberley]

Originally Posted by firstouting

Cs is not needed for someone who is actually working. It is just a tool for those to lazy to actually do for themselves.

Really?

So just because I work full time & do not rely on the government to pay my bills & raise the kids, my ex shouldn't be financially responsible for the children he wanted during the marriage?

What a crock of shit.