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Old 04-30-2013, 09:58 AM
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She has agreed to live with me part time. She warned me that dad said she doesn't get her car on the days she is with me. Luckily I have insurance on my car for her.

Thanks for your replies everyone.
What's he going to do, take a taxi to your house and drive her car away? It's either her car or it isn't.
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No. Gifts to your child do not vitiate your child support obligation. Numerous cases have payor parents doing this, and then being found in arrears of child support.
Thanks for the clarification OrleansLawyer! I was wondering...
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No. Gifts to your child do not vitiate your child support obligation. Numerous cases have payor parents doing this, and then being found in arrears of child support.
My thinking was that the ex would not bother to take her to court, because it's only for four months.
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Give the CS money directly to the adult child while she is living with her father.
People often forget that CS is not actually for the support of the child. It is explicitly for the support of the recipient parent.

As such, you cannot give money to the child, because that defeats the purpose of child support, which is to improve the lifestyle of the custodial parent.
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People often forget that CS is not actually for the support of the child. It is explicitly for the support of the recipient parent.

As such, you cannot give money to the child, because that defeats the purpose of child support, which is to improve the lifestyle of the custodial parent.
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I'm not seeing the flame part. I wish my kids could receive the money, and pay their mom for room and board out of it. But that isn't how it works.
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I agree that when the kids gets older they should pay mom/ or dad room and board then get the money to spend on the junk they want/ sports etc. That could work if the kids were responsible. Kids cost money though lets face it.
Just heard from the x today: we can omit child support from me to him if he doesn't have to pay me 150 a month spousal support indefinitely. Hmmm 1 yr. child support or ... wow he's soo generous. This is part of the agreement, which cost me about 3 years to get and about 20,000. Plus the last 4 years manipulating the kids against me, over money.
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He won't pay spousal which is 150 a mth., which I only received for about 6 months and not since.
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This is part of the agreement, which cost me about 3 years to get and about 20,000. Plus the last 4 years manipulating the kids against me, over money.
You spent $20,000 and 3 years to get an SS order for $150.00 a month? And you haven't even got that enforced through FRO?

Hmmm...

I guess you have two choices.

1) Pay whatever CS you're going to owe based on which access arrangements your daughter wants to comply to and get enforcement arranged on your SS order, including whatever retroactive he owes you.

2) Take his deal, however, it doesn't sound beneficial to you...and its not legally binding on either side since you have an existing order for SS and CS is the right of the child.

Either way, I thoroughly agree with the earlier poster who recommended that you leave your daughter out of your divorce issues...particularly ones involving CS. Its the most damaging and self-serving thing you can do to badmouth the other parent in an attempt to win her to your side and demean her opinion of her father. You married him, she didn't....take responsibility for your own actions. Kids take enough responsible for stuff they didn't do in a divorce. You're not running for Mayor...you don't need voters. Be a good mother and a decent person and don't engage in that type of nonsense.
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When you separated and the kids were living with him, did you pay cs back then?

Later when the kids were living with you, did he pay cs to you?

Why are you against paying cs now?

You claim he lied to your kids and they wouldn't talk to you for a year after separating. Now you claim that he offered them a car a couple days a week and they don't want to stay with you anymore, even though you are offering your car during your days.... The kids are adults. They know what's happening and can decide what they want to do. If you're so sure it's only because of a bribe, then try bribing the kids yourself and see if they change their mind. Give them your car, and then use all the ss and cs you'll get to buy a new one.
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