Unsupervised access

[Nae]

I am separated and I have a 1.5 yo son.
He is with my x and she only allows me to come and see him @ her house, when she wants.
There is no particular reason for doing this; I am a respectable person, working most of the time out of town and coming back in town around 6-7 days cumulated / month.
When we’re playing together she is intervening, making weird remarques, comments, and so on. That’s not fun at all, for all of us and everyone gets stressed.
There is any other way than going to court to ask for unsupervised access to my son, to be able to take him for a walk, to the mall, park, playground without her being around and stressing us out, a cheaper, less stressful and time consuming way than paying a lawyer for doing such a normal, common and ordinary thing?

[NBDad]

Can't fix stupid. Try playing hardball. Send her an email (followed by an R3 letter) that you do not agree to her withholding access to the child and that you plan on exercising your parenting time at your own home go forward. Request she work with you to create a workable parenting plan.

This really depends on how much time you are wanting to get. Every other weekend? 50-50? Week on week off? etc.

You need to decide what it is you want, and then stick to that. Are you paying Child Support? If not, you need to be effective immediately.

If she ignores your or continues to withhold access, then you get a lawyer and file a motion with the court for access. The longer you allow this to go on, the more it becomes "status quo". Judge's HATE to break established status quo. Don't let her establish it.

[Berner_Faith]

NBDad is bang on... do you currently have a court order or any form of agreement? Unfortunately unless she is willing to work with you, then your only option will be to speak to a lawyer and take this to court...however, before you enter court suggest mediation to try and work something out before your court date...Like stated above...don't allow this to go to status quo.

[Kenny]

NBDad:

I like your expression "Can't fix stupid." How true!

[NBDad]

I'm considering compiling some of them into NBDad-isms

"Can't fix stupid"
"fuzzy pink bunnies and glitter farting unicorns"
"Crazier than crazy glue"

[Nae]

Thx 4 comments!
Useful & dramatically funny (“fix stupid”).

It seemed there is no other way than a court order and a lawyer…still don’t understand why should I go there and spend money on that to impose something normal and logic.
Why those ones that didn’t comply with the laws and normality shouldn’t pay all expenses caused for being brought to the court for something they did and for something they don’t understand?
Why we should spend money for these instead keeping it for our children?

[dinkyface]

I suggest you start drinking and watching Terry Gilliam movies. Obviously you have an overdeveloped sense of what SHOULD be normal.

Welcome to the forum.

[sahibjee]

try mediation, though stupid cant be fixed, it will look good in front of the judge that you at least tried it.