Supervised Access?

[Mess]

You're asking all the right questions. I don't have answers.

She has a right to support, and even if you did the adoption thing now, he still owes arrears which were her legal right.

But you both also have a right to closure and an end to conflict. There's no right answer to this, no matter what you choose, it's going to have drawbacks.

If it were obvious then you wouldn't be here wondering what to do.

I think it's pretty clear you've made up your mind to go for the support arrears and there's nothing wrong with that, but I think you need to take a deep breath, realize that you were conflicted internally over it, and now set the past aside, you have a task, it will be hard, get it done. What was it Nellie Mcclung said abut that...

“Never retract, never explain, never apologize; get things done and let them howl.”

[representingself]

Hey Mess...

Thank you so much for actually reading my post, helping me with your open mindedness and for being so objective.

It is so easy to get all wrapped up in the emotions of all of this and loose ones ability to even think clearly!

I am just trying to do the right thing, but my own brain battles against what is right and wrong and it can change by the minute!

Thanks again....

BTW....loved the quote!!