Shared Parenting and Information

[inseperationhell]

Hi,

Any ideas on how to deal with the passing of information about the kids (or lack thereof) in a shared parenting situation? I send emails with all schooling and sports information regarding the kids to stbx. I found out tonight that the 2 youngest have science projects due on Wednesday - the assignment came home a week ago when they were with stbx....I was not informed. They now have 2 weeknights to start and finish the project while they could have done the project throughout the weekend. I am not happy right now...

[blinkandimgone]

I thought all the kids brought home agendas these days? I know mine have been since the day they started school - are there still schools out there that don't use them?

[Rioe]

The agenda wouldn't have helped if they have week about. She wouldn't have been able to see it until the kids got back to her. Well, it's a good lesson to the kids that they can't rely on their dad for help with homework, and not to leave things till the last minute. I would reinforce this lesson by not helping them very much with it! Maybe when the bad marks come in, you can mention to the ex that it was too bad they didn't work on it while they were with him when they would have had more time to devote to it.

[Tayken]

Originally Posted by inseperationhell

Hi,

Any ideas on how to deal with the passing of information about the kids (or lack thereof) in a shared parenting situation? I send emails with all schooling and sports information regarding the kids to stbx. I found out tonight that the 2 youngest have science projects due on Wednesday - the assignment came home a week ago when they were with stbx....I was not informed. They now have 2 weeknights to start and finish the project while they could have done the project throughout the weekend. I am not happy right now...

1. As a parent you should not be dependent on the other parent for information.
2. Have independent relationships with the children's service providers (teachers, doctors, ect). Get to know them.
3. Request that the teacher provide you separate information when the children reside with you. All school notices and everything should be provided to you by the school. Just ask them to provide you directly with anything going home while residing with the other parent.

Good Luck!
Tayken

[inseperationhell]

blinkandimgone - yes the kids have agendas, however, the assignment was a paper copy, not written in the agenda - he took the paper with the assignment instructions.

Rioe - I like your thinking - but the kids are only 7. I did help them tonight with it and we will finish tomorrow night. Too much homework for only 2 school nights however there have been no tears or complaining. The lesson the kids have already learned through this - they cannot trust Dad to help with homework, they need to start on thier own. The last 2 nights talking to Dad on the phone, they have brought up their project that is due and the fact that they now have no tv or play time after dinner at all because he let almost a week go by....

Tayken, thanks for the advice. I have contacted all 5 of my kids teachers and the principle requesting that I be sent all information and assignments directly - I will see what the school says.