Question regarding access

[mominont]

Currently my ex has supervised visitation, at his mother's house.

I asked for sole custody/ supervised access. He's asking for joint custody, shared living arrangements. He has documented mental health issues.

When we attended our case conference the judge gave him Monday's from 9-3:30. I decided let him have an extra day and stipulated Thursday's from 9-3:30. I wanted him to show an effort in maintaining a relationship with our daughter.

The office of the Children's lawyer is currently putting a report together.

My ex hasn't shown up at his mother's for visitation for 4 weeks now.
I don't believe its in our daughter's best interest to have a parent in and out of her life.

I'm contemplating the idea of asking for sole custody / no access, seeing he can't seem to manage to visit her two days a week. I've also thought about stipulating that he must call to schedule a visit 72hrs in advance, and if he misses 2 visits per month, access will terminate.

What are your thoughts?

mominont

[logicalvelocity]

mominont,

It won't look good on them in regards to his claims if he is not showing up for your daughter's access.

A child needs the security of knowing that their parent is going to show when they are suppose too.

On the plus side, I suspect your child has come to know and bond with their grandparent.

lv

[mominont]

Our daughter does have quite a bond with her grandma.

Whether dad chooses to be involved or not. Grandma and granddaughter will always have a relationship. Grandma babysits for me fulltime while I work. I pay her the "going" rate of course, and the ex issues are seperate from our relationship.

mominont

[logicalvelocity]

mominont,

That is great when that occurs and even better when your child sees that you are endorsing that.

I have a similar situation, and for all concerned it sure makes things easy

lv