PLEASE RESPONDE....I need opinions from other moms

[MTLMOM]

OK, so I have heard that my exs new girlfriends is very nice.... which is great for my kids and bad for her. (because my ex is a sociopath) but I am starting to wonder how sane she is..................

first of all after less than a year of dating, my ex is selling his house and moving in with his new girlfriend. ( he is very predictable, and I would have been more surprised if he had actually been able to take care of himslef on his own) so no big deal there...... she is taking the risk I guess (he has HUGE financial problems) but heres where I need your opinion........


She met my children in November, and now this past weekend, 4 months of seeing them every second weekend (or less because some were missed) and she buys them and her daughter new dressed and has family photos taken????? Is this odd to anyone? Isnt she moving a wee bit too fast. ( I dont mean with my ex, hes an adult, but with my kids?) family photos with children she barely knows?

[DadofTwoGirls]

What difference does it make? You have no control over it and can't really do anything about it. It is a bit wierd but I would worry more about how you react to it in front of your kids than the actual picture event. Maybe she's trying to make it feel like "family" at your ex's place. That's not so bad, is it?

[Mikesgal]

I can see how you may find it weird..I do think though that maybe she is a tad insecure perhaps and justs wants this as a way of feeling more apart of a "family setting" now what is REALLY wierd is when you start dating a guy and his ex feels it is ok to have a picture of her and the kids and me and my guy all in one photo...like that will ever happen

[Sk8r]

I don't think it's weird.

I had pictures of my kids and my SO's kids fairly early on. (not a family pic, just the kids). It was for my partner and I, not for anyone else. We wanted to be able to hang a picture of all of the children. We had a picture of the four of them together and then in pairs of siblings and as individuals. We even sent their mother some pictures of her two together and by themselves. It never occurred to me that their mother might find this offensive. That certainly wasn't my intention.

[MTLMOM]

Well my reaction to my kids was of course, wow that must have been fun. Thats it, I dont like to hear a lot about him. I guess its good, I like that she is so nice to them, I tell them I am so happy daddy has found someone that is nice to you. And further down the road I guess I would have found it less odd that they had photos taken. (the 3 girls all ready had their photos taken one month after she met my girls) I told my girls its because they are very lovable.....you know, i joke around with them like how could she not love you..your adorableand sweet. I guess I find it weird because it is so fast, my ex met her this past summer and When I left him he tried to get me back for a couple of months saying he couldnt live without me, and then as soon as he realised I wasnt comming back, he latched on to someone else, and I guess I just didnt expect her to latch on as quickly as I expected him to latch on to someone. (abusive men tend to do that)

thanks for your input, it really does not make any difference to me, as Ill never see them anyways because my ex still HATES me for leaving him, even though he has a new gf. Your right though maybe she is insecure and trying to make it official. Still not very well thought out to move so fast, if you ask me, especially with 3 young children involved.

[Doris]

Sorry you have to deal with something like this, it's strange though! I can see buying dresses and things but a family picture...just be glad that you don't have to deal with your ex she does, that should make you feel better it does in my situation.