.. having to deal with this issue as part of the other parents continued compaign. other parent is literally hugging kuddling kissing the child for literally 15-20 minutes every pickup. what makes it more ridiculous is that the exchange takes place at daycare (where I am supposed to pickup the child from off - no court order - just instruction and dictation of the custodial queen) and other parent just shows up to do this thing.
what's the best way to deal with this? I think the other parent is doing this to annoy me and get on my nerves. to me it just makes me laugh within how ridiculous she looks when she does this.. like go get a life.. you're not hot you're not good looking nobody wants to see you for 15 20 minutes every time i pickup our child.. of course I would never say that to any one or the other parent, but it is what it is. I mean like really? come on.. just tell the child to have an awesome time and let her go.. get a hobby or something. buy a dog..
What I am doing is just going up the child saying hello and doing something silly to make her laugh, etc. or saying something like hello you two beautiful ladies.. etc..
the other parent is taking the position that the child doesn't enjoy wanting to spend time with me and is working with babysitter to make this distorted reality appear as a reality.. the child is delighted to see me and especially so at the school.. the child greats me differently at the school then she does when the mother is present at babysitters. child becomes super happy when sees me at school runs up to give me a hug, etc. at babysitters.. would never happen. even when child sees me at school with other parent present.. same babysitter scenario.. seems to be a strong influence by the other parent as to how the child greets me.
Other parent is also instructing our child to run out of the car and into their home at drop offs without proper goodbyes.
anywho. anyone dealt with this? basically in short, i feel as though the other parent is being overly clingy wanting the child to be really attached to them during exchanges and not greet me or say goodbye properly etc. it's so obvious.
child will act and behave as the other parent instructs due to fear of things unknown to me. it's so obvious to know when the other parent is doing and I feel like our child has become a wind up toy:
any thoughts, comments feedback, words of wisdom, I look forward to it all.
guess I should mention that babysitter is friends with mom, and has made unfounded allegations against me to the CAS throughout the custody/access proceedings, and the mother is regularly disparaging me to the child.