co home sharing

[dadontherocks]

My x has just moved out of the matrimonial home. The 3 kids are with me and one of them is not interested in going to her new place under any circumstances, she's 16. The younger 2 will want 50/50, which she's pushing for and have them sleep over 50% of the time. I'd rather they visit her but come home after school and sleep at home, so the routine during school week is not disrupted too much. Trouble is they're 12 and 14 and she's been convincing them this new arrangement will be fine. She also doesn't want to pay CS and thats a motivation for her too.

If she's the one that left left, am I in a better position to argue to keep the status quo at the primary home and arrange visitation? not split to "2 primary homes"
50/50 custody is OK (my 16 yr old wants 100% custody with me) and I want them to continue to see their mom, but the travel to and from houses and staying overnight during the week is too much.

[fireweb13]

How far away does she live?

[dinkyface]

50-50 custody means that there will be some midweek visitations (assuming you don't want to give her all weekends in return for all weekdays). That in itself makes things more complicated, but do see any alternative?

Given midweek visits, realise that it is easier for them to sleep at the home they went to after school (less back/forth). Both parents will need to cooperate to ensure homework gets done. A schedule like Mon/Tues overnight w Mom, Weds/Thurs overnight w Dad, then F/S/S alternates is pretty regular. Or, alternating the entire week could work.

Possible/suspected money motives? Irrelevant. If the access parent will follow thru with the schedule, then max contact w both parents is best.

It sounds like you are saying that 50/50 is actually NOT OK with you.

If mom is outside of reasonable travel distance TO THE SCHOOL, then that is another matter altogether - she either has to move closer, or accept weekend-only visits.